What do you seek in love? Are you looking for a hero or heroine to rescue you from your distress, or a kind and loving father or mother figure to nurture your inner child, or a succubus or incubus to fulfill your sexual desires, or a guru or wise woman to inspire your mind and show you the way of enlightenment?
We all want to love, and be loved in return. It seems fairly simple, and yet it invariably proves to be so tremendously complicated. Why is that? Part of the reason lies with understanding what it is we are truly seeking from and in love. Have you ever wished for someone to love you, and when that person appears you think ‘I want someone to love me, but not him or her’. There is nothing actually wrong with him or her, but you just don’t feel inspired to love them in return. Perhaps the love they are offering you is not the love you desire. They are offering you a beautiful house, with an enchanted garden, and a white picket fence to protect your slice of Heaven on Earth, but you want a mysterious stranger on a charging steed to sweep you off your feet and carry you away to a wild and darkly magic land.
In an attempt to shed some light on love, I have been exploring Eros, the asteroid, in astrology.
For a clear and interesting guide to Eros through the signs and houses may I recommend you visit:
Mine is surprisingly and rather alarmingly accurate, which caused a shiver of excitement to zip through me like an electric shock:
“Eros in Aquarius says, “surprise me, shock me, amazement me!” This position of Eros carries a high voltage charge with stimulating encounters that need a lot of air space to conduct electromagnetic charms. Eros in Aquarius desires the weird, the wonderful and the unusual. He thrives on the unexpected and luxuriates in situations that make the more traditional signs squirm with embarrassment. Eros in the sign of the Water Bearer has a disposition bordering on the bizarre. He crosses boundaries as if they did not exist and skips the lines of gender and protocol like a child playing hop-scotch. If it is unusual and invigorating, he is probably interested. The third of the AIR signs, Eros in Aquarius gets bored with routine and needs intriguing conversation and somewhat unconventional themes to keep his interest aroused. He also needs a lot of freedom.” © Kim Falconer
One of the most insightful things which I have discovered from my exploration is that Eros influences our friendships too. We often seek from friends that which we seek in a lover, although we do not necessarily want to turn our friendships into more physically intimate affairs. Sometimes we do. Sometimes it happens. And sometimes we seek in friends that which our lover cannot give us.
What do you think?