The Bundles of Joy Blogging Award Nominations – 8 & 9 – The Narcissist Slayers
Today I am nominating:
These two beautiful souls whom I have dubbed Narcissist Slayers, are experts on being in a relationship with a Narcissist. I know that sounds like a dubious expertise to have as it is not the sort of qualification anyone would willingly seek, yet in these times when so many people seem to be Narcissists, partly due to society being increasingly Narcissistic and encouraging the traits and behaviours which go with the disorder, and so many people have found themselves unwittingly in a relationship with a Narcissist and suffering deeply because of it, such expertise is of great value. It is the gift in the curse of being in a relationship with a Narcissist.
They know what being in a relationship with a Narcissist entails, the confusion and pain of it, and how to survive it, coming out of it kicking, screaming and breaking the silence which it creates. They share their stories bravely and reach out to others who have similar stories showing you that no matter how much you suffer at the hands and mouth of a Narcissist, how much they mess you up in the head and heart, you can not only survive, but break free and thrive and become a strong voice for those who are still trapped in silence, inspiring and encouraging others to do the same.
We’re all beautiful, powerful beings which is why we attract Narcissists, and those Narcissists try to take our power away from us. They show us our power, then try to make us forget what they’ve shown us because they want to own it as their own. They want us to believe that we are the opposite of who we are, that way we won’t realise they are stealing our beauty and power. It’s very complicated and sometimes we feel so confused and exhausted we can’t find our way out of the nightmare that our dream relationship turned into, and we need a helping hand to guide us out.
Why do I call them Narcissist Slayers? If you’ve been in a relationship with a Narcissist you might know why.
A relationship with a Narcissist always feels like a quest. You’re recruited as a hero to save them from dragons of one sort or another. They have so many dramas and stories of dramas. They are male and female damsels in permanent distress. It feels good at first to be seen as a hero on a quest to save such a damsel, it makes love mythical in proportions, you’re a dragon slayer, but at some point you’re going to become the dragon from whom they need saving. They are always the victim in distress and never see themselves as the victimiser. Once you were a hero to them and now they’ve turned you with a wave of their wand of endless illusion into the villain. You are a dragon villain who now realises that the real dragon villain is the damsel (male or female) who has never been in distress at all, but causes an awful lot of it for others, especially those who try and save them. You can never save them.
One of the hardest parts of leaving a Narcissist is the guilt you may feel for abandoning them to the dragon villain and drama of their lives. But how can you save them from themselves? You can’t. What you can do is save yourself before they swallow you up completely and devour you, dragging you into the hell inside of them. They are stuck there, you are not, but you may feel as though you are, it’s all part of their ability to make illusions and fantasy seem very real.
You are not alone. Break your silence, reach out and share your story. It is a very healing and liberating experience and can help you to find the gift in the curse of your relationship with a Narcissist.
Please visit their blogs and encourage these brave Narcissist Slayers to continue in their quest. And please continue in your quest to free yourself. You are brave and beautiful too. Take care of yourselves!
The rules for these awards are:
1. Thank the person who nominated you and link back to them.
2. Put the awards’ logos on your blog.
3. Nominate 15 Bloggers and tell them by leaving a comment on their blog.
What you do is up to you!
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