When Your Sense of Each Other Darkens…

Once Upon a Time



“Every friendship travels at sometime through the black valley of despair. This tests every aspect of your affection. You lose the attraction and the magic. Your sense of each other darkens and your presence is sore. If you can come through this time, it can purify with your love, and falsity and need will fall away. It will bring you onto new ground where affection can grow again.” ― John O’Donohue

When a relationship ends or hits a rough, dark and thorny patch. When the bliss which once was becomes the bliss which once was that you want to get back. When it seems as though someone’ s love for you has faded, lost its power to reach you, trickled away, been given to someone else. when you feel ignored, discarded, abandoned, by one who swore to love you, be friends with you, forever.

Things can get dark in the heart and mind.

They may be able to let go, but you can’t, don’t, won’t.

You are still in love, in friendship, in a relationship.

You can’t fathom what happened. It seems as though one minute everything was fine… yes, you had a few problems but who doesn’t, these things can be worked out… and the next minute they were gone. Without a word. Without explaining why. Without giving you the chance to say goodbye or find a way to turn the impending goodbye into a hello again.

We all experience this kind of heartache at least once in our lives… usually it happens more than once like a dreaded visit to the dentist who keeps pulling out your teeth whether they need to be pulled or not, and rather than healing a pain it causes one. There is no way to avoid this kind of heartache, it’s a rite of passage if you dare to risk to love, to relate, to be in a relationship with another.

We all have ways in which we deal with a break up.

Just in case you’d never considered it as a solution, let me introduce you to Black Magic Spam. If you have a WordPress blog you’ve probably received one of these missives in your comment folder – they come in different shapes and sizes, and their magic gets them through the spam filter. There seems to be an epidemic of them at the moment. This one is my favourite so far because it is so detailed. I’ve left it as is and have only removed the contact details… as I’m not promoting this as a solution to problems of any sort.

“Hello am Miss Nicolas.,From united kingdom .I will start by saying to all that have experience heart break and also cant do with out there lover should please stop here and read up my story, So as you will know how to go solving or getting your ex back from this spell caster..AND AGAIN I WILL WANT TO ALSO TELL ALL ABOUT THIS SPELL CASTER I WILL WANT TO TELL THE WHOLE WORLD ABOUT IS HARMLESS AND DO NOT HAVE ANY SIDE EFFECT, BUT TO RESTORE AND GIVE YOU BACK WHAT YOU DESERVE, COS WHEN I MEET WITH THIS SPELL CASTER THAT WAS INTRODUCED TO ME BY THE WIFE OF MY BOSS IN MY WORKING PLACE, HE MADE IT CLEAR THAT HE CAN CAST SPELL ON SO MANY OTHER PROBLEMS EXCEPT IN GETTING YOUR EX OR MAKING YOUR LOVER TO LOVE YOU MORE THAT WILL SUITE YOU. Last year December, My lover was cheating on me and was not also give me the attention that a man should give to a woman,And really that was troubling my mind and tearing my heart apart to the extent that i was not concentrating in the office the way i use to before the break up by my lover.And before that incident,I always see how my boss use to love his wife so much. I was binging to think that i was not doing the right thing to him that will make him love me forever,So i really gathered my courage and went to my boss wife office to ask her the secret that made her husband love her so dearly,In the first place she refused in telling me,She asked me why i am asking her such a question,That if is it not normal for every man to love his wife.I told her the reason that made me ask her about this question,That my lover started cheating on me lately,When i knelt down before her for her to see my seriousness in this issue that i went to ask her,She opened up to me by telling me that i should not tell anybody about what she want to tell me,The wife to my boss started to say to me that she used a very powerful spell on his husband to love her,And the spell that she used is harmless, But the spell is just to make him love her and never to look for any other woman except her. I QUICKLY ASK HER HOW DID SHE GET TO KNOW THIS GREAT,POWER,DURABLE AND PERFECT WORK SPELL CASTER,she said that a friend of hers also introduce her to him. Then i also ask her how i can meet with this spell caster.SHE SAID EVERYTHING TO ME,THAT THE NAME OF THIS SPELL CASTER IS Dr Ogba temple .My next question to her was how can i get this wonderful spell caster,She said she is going to give me the email of the spell caster for me to contact him for my problem,Really she gave to me this spell caster email and i contacted him and explained all to him,And after every thing that needed to be done by the spell caster, In the next two days, My lover that hated me so much came to house begging for forgiveness and i was so glad that i have finally gotten my heart desire..I was so grateful to this spell caster for what he has done for my life.. So i made a promise to him that i will always continue telling the world about his wonderful work towards me and also to other that came to you before and also the people that will also get to you from my story that i narrated online now..I will want to say to the entire world that you should not cry over noting again, That there is a great man that has been helping individuals to restore there Joy and smile in there faces !!  This is what i want to tell you all out there,That is thinking that all hope is lost ok..Thanks.”

If such a thing could work… why would you want it to do so.

I can understand why you might wish such a solution were possible. We wish many things were possible, especially magic, when we’re in a dark place, feeling the weight of crushing despair, desperation, powerlessness and hopelessness.

Love lost…

But if the only way to have someone love you is to force them to do so against their will…

Then surely the magic of love, which when it is given with free will is uplifting, inspiring, and transforms everything and everyone it touches into golden sunshine, becomes as blackened and dark as the spell used to bring it to you. You may get what you wish, but what did you have to give away to get it.


“I take no joy in mead nor meat, and song and laughter have become suspicious strangers to me. I am a creature of grief and dust and bitter longings. There is an empty place within me where my heart was once.” ― George R.R. Martin



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