What You See is What You Get

I want to ki-- you.

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There are silent conversations which happen within us all the time. We talk to ourselves, we answer back, we discuss things with others, they speak with us, we chat with things as well as people, and things communicate with us… all within the confines of our mind.

If someone looked at us they might assume that we are being silent, our mouth is closed, no sound is being emitted, we aren’t talking with them (even though we may be doing so in our mind)… they might wonder why we aren’t talking with them, and depending on the quality of our silence, on their perception of it, they might take our silence personally triggering an inner conversation of their own.

Why are we not speaking with them? Was it something they did or said, did they offend us, hurt us in some way and now we’re giving them the silent treatment? How dare we give them the silent treatment, they’ve done nothing wrong! They must get us to break our silence… but they can’t think of anything to say.

During this inner interaction, they have been silent on the outside. If we were looking at them we might have concluded that all was quiet on the inside as it was without. Perhaps we noticed a furrowing of their brow and decided that they were deep in thought,  we may have wondered what they were thinking… was it about us? We like the idea that they might be thinking about us, but not if it is a bad thought, one which causes a brow to furrow. What have we done now? We’ve been sitting here silently, not bothering them, surely our silence did not upset them as usually it is the words which spill out of our mouth which does that, maybe they are brewing a storm based on something we said earlier, the other day, last week… which they’ve only now decided to get upset about. If that’s what is going on, we really don’t feel like talking with them.

This is just one of many possible ways a silent conversation might flow. It very much depends on those involved, on what they are carrying with them, within them, on context, on all the other silent conversations occurring simultaneously in the moment.

The two quotes above appeared close together on my Pinterest home feed, they seemed to be having a silent conversation with each other. I checked to see if they were from the same Pinner, as if they were then the quotes might reflect a conversation which one person was having with themselves, however they were from different Pinners, therefore they were fragments from two separate silent conversations which just happened to intersect under the gaze of my eyes, becoming a part of my silent conversation.

When my eyes alighted upon the first image (which actually came after the second image in my home feed) I did fill in the blanks, as the mind is want to do… and then did a double-take when I realised that I had options as I hadn’t noticed that there were blanks because I filled them in before I noticed that I was reading the words. What letters did I choose? Did they reflect what I was carrying in my heart at the time, and perhaps always carry in my heart? Were they a result of the moment or of a moment before, from the past, near or far? Were they influenced by the context, the other silent conversations through images and words, surrounding that pin?

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We are not always aware of what we see, not always aware that what we are seeing is influenced by so many of the other things which we see but don’t necessarily notice. We filter to focus. We focus on what is at the front of our mind, and what is at the front of our mind shifts our focus and how we perceive the world, and all the people and things in it.

If we are feeling good, because something positive is at the front of our mind, giving us sunny filters through which we view the world, then someone else’s silence becomes something we may look upon as a relaxing moment of contemplation which they are having with themselves. We do not take it personally… and if we do, we might imagine that the curve of their lips form a smile because they are thinking a sweet thought about us.

If we are feeling bad, sad, mad, then the world, people and things in it change accordingly.

Sometimes it has nothing to do with how we are feeling, and everything to do with the context of the moment, the myriad things which surround our point of focus, which add meaning to it. Such as the portrait of the man next to the Goethe quote, the image of the human angel poised on a ladder, or perhaps the lip photograph, or… all of it blending together to create a collage in our mind, a silent conversation within inspired by many separate silent conversations without.

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What you see is what you get… but what are you seeing… and what are you getting… what are you seeing of what you are getting… and does how you see what you are getting make you see what you are seeing differently?

What we get, and how we see that which is gotten, often holds our attention more than how we were seeing what we saw to get what we got… it’s very complicated being human and owning a human mind and all the bits which go with it.

What are you seeing and getting from this (a headache, perhaps)?

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18 thoughts on “What You See is What You Get

  1. Thank you, that’s a very nice thing to say, and you may be right.
    It’s functioning, but mostly for practical purposes (work and the like), and paradoxically enough better than ever, -perhaps better is not the right word, clearer maybe, more efficiently. I have noticed that I look more and interpret less, and whatever I interpret I don’t believe it anymore. Also, I have stopped using my mind to ‘ruminate’ (or it has stopped on its own, -well not quite, but to a much greater extent than before). It feels like I either ‘know’ or I don’t, that’s all. And for the most part, it’s definitely ‘I don’t know’. Whatever I ‘know’ (and it’s really very very little, and getting even smaller) doesn’t come from rumination I came to realize. Where it comes from, I don’t know! (haha I won’t die of a brain attack, that I’m sure of! :D)

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      1. I ‘fixed’ it 😉

        The double posting of a comment happens every now and then, it’s a common glitch (amongst many WP glitches). WP has a big brain which sometimes experiences the pitter-patter of tiny error feet.

        I can’t ‘fix’ your ‘mark’ of being a poster who never knows where to post because to me such a ‘mark’ is one of beauty.

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        1. Thank you! I was quite embarrassed to see the double posting and in the wrong place… talking about ‘working brains’ and I can’t even find out where to post, heh 🙂 I’m afraid you couldn’t fix that even if you wanted!, but I guess there are worse things than being the poster who never knows where to post, and how to post too, for the double posting was my fault as well. I kept looking at the bottom of the page and nope, no post, -should I post it again? 😀 I have a lot of fun laughing at myself sometimes, thank you for your kindness, I thought now I’m going to get a reprimande!

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          1. ‘Mistakes’, ‘glitches’, and such are the spice which makes life a tasty adventure, they are experiments and so much more which lead to more and more adventures of discovery.

            Why would I reprimand you when I am a mess myself, and love being that way 😉

            And as far as I am concerned, you post in all the right places, and if it doubles up… maybe it’s just trying to be heard because an important message is held within! I love what you share, always enlightening and thought provoking and just a beautiful voice which is a pleasure to hear!

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  2. I want to “kill” kill, kill you…Jason & Friday the 13th must be on my mind with Halloween coming up. My youngest boys have decided to dress up as killer clowns. Fun to read others responses…”I want to know you” is my favorite so far…I do…I want to know you.

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    1. ‘Tis the season to be scary… 😉 and killer clowns are creeptastic! Love it!

      When you say ‘I want to know you’… who is it you are talking to? So often when we talk with others, we listen as though we are talking with ourselves, it’s an intricate dance, as the more we want to know others, and do so, the more we know ourselves and want to know more.

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      1. Never thought of it that way “I want to know you”- as me talking to myself but I have been doing a lot of that this past year. I was actually referring to you though and through you I have learned how to better talk to myself & gotten to know myself-just like you mentioned…”an intricate dance”, it is.

        This morning as I was getting kids ready for school I stopped myself in my tracks & smiled, realizing how much I talk to myself out loud now. I always thought this was the trait of “old” people. Guess I belong to that group now. So, I was thinking why am I doing this so much now. I never did this before. I think I know why. I have lots that I need to say- but who wants to listen to all my musings and hear all my hypothetical scenarios of what I would do if I could just tell someone this or do that. It’s my own talk therapy session I guess. It is mostly related to my past year and all that has gone along with healing myself & self acceptance (I really Iiked that post on that). It’s a part of the process & I had a friend just recently tell me that she was proud of me for seeking help when I needed it and that action alone meant “that you love yourself deeply.” That was a profound statement and kind of took me off guard. That I love myself deeply enough to face it and work through it. Cool spin on things when you feel like you were involved in a WTF just happened situation & you “want to kill” someone, ha.

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        1. Your friend is a keen observer and sharer of keen observations, just as you are. This too is a profound statement – “I have lots that I need to say- but who wants to listen to all my musings and hear all my hypothetical scenarios of what I would do if I could just tell someone this or do that.” – that is often why people create blogs. It’s a place where we can talk to ourselves, listen to what we are saying, understand more through our sharing with ourselves… and perhaps connect with others apart from ourselves who may want to listen to our musings 🙂

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  3. I see emotionally vibrating people, all with different masses and different wave lengths. Sometimes I “see” lovely beings like you and wont to drown in your ocean until I’m born again…

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  4. So funny! I thought the first image said, “I want to Know you” . My nephew walked past my office when your page was up and he said, “I want to Kiss you”. He’s having his first romance and apparently, “kissing” is on his mind…

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  5. I am laughing 🙂 giggling, really hee heeeee!! hmmmmm I saw, I want to kill you!! Yup, seeing and getting and thinking and reading and remembering and applying and acting……………..phew we are busy little humans with Fantastic, Complicated, an Matrix-like brains ever flowing~~~~~~

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    1. The Matrix is a wonderful metaphor!

      I think that ‘kill’ is the word most likely to be seen as the dashes look like the horizontal section of an ‘L’. Seeing other letters would require not seeing the dashes, or for them not to be there, but then we might not know something was missing and blanks needed filling in, or how many blanks there were. Thus our options would be none or too many… 😉

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  6. I think I have a very slow brain (or just lazy, -I don’t know). When I saw the picture I thought , ‘I want to ki you?’ What we see is most definitely what we get, how fortunate we have a choice ‘I want to kind you?’ 😀

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    1. There is much to be valued in having a slow brain and/or a lazy one, as it allows ideas to simmer and absorbs the juices which might otherwise never be tasted. However sometimes what appears to be slow may actually be moving faster than the eye can see. When you saw the picture, you saw what was there… that is quite a feat, one which is worth appreciating on a low heat 😉

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