How May I Best Use it… She asked

What are you thinking?

Quick, take a screenshot of it… before you think about thinking and change the thought by doing that!

Did you capture it?

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toy story monkey

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“The human mind is like that monkey, incessantly active by its own nature, then it becomes drunk with the wine of desire, thus increasing its turbulence. After desire takes possession comes the sting of the scorpion of jealousy at the success of others, and last of all the demon of pride enters the mind, making it think itself of all importance.”
― Ram Dass, Be Here Now

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Can you communicate it?

Can you share your thought with others?

Do you want to share it as it is?

There is a certain worry there that others might not understand why you were thinking what you were thinking… do you understand why you were thinking it?

Can you explain why you were thinking such a thing? Does it need explaining?

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“What is true is already so. Owning up to it doesn’t make it worse. Not being open about it doesn’t make it go away. And because it’s true, it is what is there to be interacted with. Anything untrue isn’t there to be lived. People can stand what is true, for they are already enduring it.”
― Eugene T. Gendlin, Focusing

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Perhaps I should explain what the thought is behind this… but explaining my thoughts is what usually gets me into trouble, more so than I probably already am for thinking thoughts in the first place.

When someone asks me what I’m thinking… my mind tends to go blank. It’s a defensive mechanism – if my mind is blank then everyone is safe from the fallout of the radiation caused by the explosion of my thoughts being expressed out loud.

I do hate it when people ask me what I’m thinking, because I am usually enjoying whatever it was I was thinking about until this question was asked.

This question intruded and interrupted what was probably something rather bizarre and maybe even disgusting (to others).

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The Witcher

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“Lesser, greater, middling, it’s all the same. Proportions are negotiated, boundaries blurred. I’m not a pious hermit, I haven’t done only good in my life. But if I’m to choose between one evil and another, then I prefer not to choose at all.”
― Andrzej Sapkowski

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This question wants me to focus on one thought, when chances are I had a billion scattered thoughts dancing together at a masquerade ball. It wants me to shine a spotlight on one dancer, disconnect it from the others, edit it, censor the naughty bits out, until it is neutered, disrobed and unmasked… and perhaps re-dressed, re-masked, re-gendered… for singular consumption.

Doing that robs it of all meaning… all meaning to the thinker of the thought, while giving it meaning to the one desirous of hearing the thought shared.

This question needs an answer which now requires the kind of thinking which I don’t enjoy – trying to figure out what the other person would like for me to be thinking and to share with them.

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“People”—Geralt turned his head—“like to invent monsters and monstrosities. Then they seem less monstrous themselves.”
― Andrzej Sapkowski

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What are you thinking… is a monster of a question.

Unless…

You’re asking it of yourself… and truly want to know what you are thinking. And what that thought revealed, reveals.

Let me think… was one of my favourite things to say to myself as a child.

For in the world of inner thought… there was so much to be discovered and uncovered.

My monkey mind was… and still is… my Swiss knife.

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Swiss Knife

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“The creation of something new is not accomplished by the intellect but by the play instinct acting from inner necessity. The creative mind plays with the objects it loves. ”
― C.G. Jung

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I love to think…

… not just think…

… but allow the thought to carry me on waves through many other thoughts, making connections, letting each thought socialise with others.

Each thought is an adventure…

a smell, a sound, a touch, a sight…

… to explore.

A random quiz taken… can lead to a place of knowing.

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emiel_regis_by_justanor-d6mvixvRegis by JustAnoR

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“…cut off his head, pierced his heart with wooden stakes, doused him in holy water and buried him… leaving him with quite some time to reflect on his lifestyle, but he did regenerate completely. After that he changed his way of life…”

Emiel Regis Rohellec Terzieff-Godefroy bio via Witcher-Wiki

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Whatever you are thinking… let yourself think it.

Be interested in that thought, and in all the other thoughts which branch off from it.

Ask yourself – What is the purpose of this thought… and how may I best use it…

Let the questions flow… and lead you to answers, which may have other questions, leading to other answers…

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“Would any one trust in the convictions of a monkey’s mind, if there are any convictions in such a mind?”
― Charles Darwin

 

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3 thoughts on “How May I Best Use it… She asked

  1. That’s so true! Sometimes people want these sort of automatic answers, too. What are you thinking! Right now! I hate that and in the past have done a kind of mental freeze where I just babble out something or other and then later am not sure what I said. It still happens – the freeze, that is. I just am much more confident about how to handle the asker/demander.

    Good post. 🙂

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    1. Thank you 🙂

      I think that there is value in the ‘freeze’, gives you time to assess. It may not allow for a quick repartee, but those are overrated. Sometimes a spell of silence is needed.

      One of my favourite things is to just look at someone who has asked me a question and wait a bit in the quiet of a pause. It can prompt a fleshing out the reason for the question, allows the querent time to think about what they’ve just asked and perhaps adjust the question. Sometimes they’ve asked something in a hurry because they feel the same kind of pressure which we feel to answer a hurried question quickly. A bit of a pause gives everyone breathing space.

      Doesn’t always work, but when it does, it can lead to a better understanding of what is really going on.

      Why are you asking? – is usually my reply to any question which is too rushed and vague. I’ve become more annoying with age 😉 and tend to want some answers from those asking questions before I answer their questions. Can be quite amusing with cold sales calls.

      So to – What are you thinking? – I tend to ask – Why do you want to know and do you really want to know or is this about something else? – it’s often about what the person asking is thinking and wants to share with you, rather than about them wanting to know what you are thinking. When someone asks you your favourite colour… they mostly just want to share theirs and the thoughts they have about it.

      And sometimes it’s a trap… but that’s another matter.

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