How Do I Express My Uniqueness… She Asked
“Yesterday’s weirdness is tomorrow’s reason why.”
― Hunter S. Thompson
How do you express your uniqueness?
Don’t you first have to figure out what it is?
What is that something which makes you… you… unique… you-nique.
We may all be born that way, unique, special snowflakes or whatever, but life and other people often try very hard to make us otherwise. Melt that special snowflake down to its basics and then get annoyed with it for not being special anymore.
“But I have a new love for that glittering instrument, the human soul. It is a lovely and unique thing in the universe. It is always attacked and never destroyed.”
― John Steinbeck
Don’t be that, be this. Don’t do that, do this. Do as I say and not as I do, and don’t do that either, but don’t not do it neither.
Be yourself… just not like that, that’s weird and is making everyone else feel awkward.
Be an individual, stand out from the crowd… but make sure the crowd approves.
Do your own thing, follow your dreams… but don’t expect support if your thing, your dreams, are different from those of others.
“Don’t compare yourself with anyone in this world…if you do so, you are insulting yourself.”
― Bill Gates
Dare to be different! Vive la difference!… off with your head!
Don’t be a sheep, a follower, don’t do what everyone else is doing… but how dare you! Who do you think you are!?!
Don’t be ordinary, be extraordinary… Uh, oh… now everyone thinks you’re a narcissist!
If only we could stop caring about what others think of us… it would be a welcome relief. We could finally just be ourselves unchained, unrestrained, unplugged.
Yet… we’d lose a lot if we didn’t care. The moment you stop caring, genuinely don’t give a hoot anymore about anyone or anything… you’re a satellite adrift in a world in which you don’t belong. That creates a whole load of other kind of… caring of a very different sort.
You’d be surprised how much not caring makes other people care, so if you think it’s the road to freedom… think again.
We’re connected… even when we’re disconnected.
“Maybe each human being lives in a unique world, a private world different from those inhabited and experienced by all other humans. . . If reality differs from person to person, can we speak of reality singular, or shouldn’t we really be talking about plural realities?”
― Philip K. Dick
As we all know, even though we come to that kind of knowledge from our own unique paths – being unique is a curse, which can also be a blessing… but the curse part of it hurts like hell, and the sweet balm of the blessing side of it is fleeting.
Unless you happen to be in the right place, at the right time, doing the right thing, being all unique and stuff and… everyone else loves it and approves and cheers you on your unique way.
They’ll lift you up, way up high onto a pedestal, worship your special something and encourage you to keep expressing it…
“So therefore I dedicate myself, to my art, my sleep, my dreams, my labors, my sufferances, my loneliness, my unique madness, my endless absorption and hunger because I cannot dedicate myself to any fellow being.”
― Jack Kerouac
But be careful… those same people who love you for being you, can just as easily start hating you for the things they loved you for, and since they put you on that pedestal, they can topple you.
And down you go… and they will celebrate your fall the same way they celebrated your rise, perhaps with even more gusto.
Because as much as we love someone for being unique, we also want them to be just like us.
Expressing your uniqueness… also has to express the uniqueness of the collective of which you are a part.
Your voice sings your song, but it also sings the song of others.
Your words may be yours, but they also hold the words of others.
Your painting, your self portrait, may be a portrait of you and no one else, but it may also be of another self.
Your dance to the beat of your own drum, holds an echo of the steps of another, their beat, their drum.
We are one, yet one is never alone even if they think and feel that they are.
“Every man is more than just himself; he also represents the unique, the very special and always significant and remarkable point at which the world’s phenomena intersect, only once in this way, and never again.”
― Hermann Hesse
Your uniqueness is the kiss of life given to the uniqueness of others.
It doesn’t just belong to you, it belongs to all of us… and when you are you, expressing your uniqueness, you pass that bug, that virus, on to others. You being you… encourages them to be them.
And we all benefit, and suffer a bit, yet the pain is part of the pleasure.
All of us who struggle with being different, weird, alien, outsiders, misfits, and so on… find an all for one and one for all!
So… the how of the question requires an understanding of the puzzle and its complexities, its conflicts and consequences, and beyond.
Perhaps how to express it is more important than the uniqueness itself, because that uniqueness is always going to squirt out of us no matter how well we try to hide it.
It’s in our nature to be unique. All of us have this curse and blessing. So… how do we work with it? Share it?
And encourage it in others while doing our thang?
“So the fact that I’m me and no one else is one of my greatest assets. Emotional hurt is the price a person has to pay in order to be independent.”
― Haruki Murakami
This post isn’t quite… Ah, Eff it! Just go for it! Press publish and move on…