To Be With Him or To Be Him… what’s this attraction truly about?
“It takes tremendous discipline to control the influence, the power you have over other people’s lives.” – Clint Eastwood
Ah, fictional characters! So easy to fall in love with, to love, and never have to deal with any of the icky, sticky, and tricky side of love. They’re so reliable, always there for you, never reject you, and they think you’re great because your love for them keeps them alive.
Yet… that kind of love is unrequited. They can never love you the way that you love them… sure you can pretend that they do, pull them out of fiction and imagine them being real, but they’re not real even when they seem more real than real people.
However, even though they aren’t real, the love you have for them is, and so are you.
What we love about those fictional beings who become the object of our affection is… what is it? What does our real love for them tell us about ourselves, who we are? Are we loving ourselves through them, perhaps?
The Daily Post asked today – You have to spend one day as or with your favorite fictional character. Which one would it be and what would you do?
Which coincides rather nicely with the series I’m doing – The Mistakes of Attraction – wherein I’m sort of exploring attraction, and what it reveals about or means to us personally.
This series is inspired by a question which olivebranch asked in a comment recently on this blog – What type of people are you most attracted to now?
Today I’m sharing a few of the fictional characters which I’ve been attracted to in the past.
I didn’t want to be with them or them with me, I wasn’t interested in a romantic liaison.
I wanted to be them, but not to shed my skin and put theirs on.
What I really wanted was to be more like them.
I related to their character’s characteristics, their behaviour and traits, their story. They were expressing a way to be which appealed to me, and my love for them, my attraction opened a way for me to learn from them, to mature what was a growing seed within.
Take for instance, Clint Eastwood, and the quote I coupled with his picture above. I chose that quote because being aware and responsible about the power you have over the lives of others has always been an issue which has made itself important in my life.
I could have just as easily chosen this quote of his:
“I have a very strict gun control policy: if there’s a gun around, I want to be in control of it.”