Because they’re a Capricorn – is not the answer to your question

Because they’re a Capricorn is not only not the answer to your question…

but it’s also not the solution to the problem which you have with them.

Blaming the problems you have with someone else on them being of a certain Sun sign is…

a) probably something which your Sun sign is prone to doing because your Sun sign is known for blaming other Sun signs as it doesn’t like to accept responsibility for anything – so it’s always someone else’s Sun sign’s fault (as long as they’re not the same Sun sign as you) when things go wrong (according to your Sun sign).

b) a last ditch attempt on your part to explain what went wrong this time in a relationship using things which are superficial and won’t actually do anything other than plaster a plaster on a wound that may need the attention of something which isn’t a plaster… a bandaid isn’t going to stop that artery from bleeding out.

c) an effort to not to deal with the reality of a relationship issue which you have with others (most issues which we have in relationships keep happening regardless of Sun signs, the common denominator – originally I wrote demonimator which seems more apt really – in our relationship problems with others is usually us but it’s easier to blame others for our problems with them).

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not your problem path to peace

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If thinking that the reason why your relationship went wrong is because you (some other Sun Sign) made the mistake of getting involved with a Capricorn… feel free to think that if it helps explain everything in a neat and tidy (rather Virgo) manner, but is that really what went wrong?

Using Sun signs isn’t going to explain to you why someone else isn’t being the person you need and want them to be for you. If anything that stone you just threw at someone else is going to bounce and hit your glass house. Why TF did you not do your Sun sign homework before and find a sign which would be exactly who you needed them to be for your Sun sign!?

All those Cancerians who keep @-ing me about their problems with Capricorns… please note – Capricorn and Cancer are polar opposites. Opposites being the keyword! Not sure if you get that concept but it’s fairly basic – anything you can do… we don’t want to do that! We want to do anything but that!

Your touchy-feely dream is our nightmare. Your sensitivity is our reason for being insensitive. Want to touch us, do it with a bargepole. Want to feel us then feel the fact that we’d rather avoid the whole feeling thing if possible (particularly feeling your feelings because we travel light to reach heights of… escapism). We do have feelings just not the ones you want us to have (you usually dismiss the ones we do have because they’re not the ones you want us to have, they’re ours and not yours). Want us to respect yours, then try respecting ours… but you always want to control (because you’re a Cardinal sign) what you can’t control (another Cardinal sign – that’s us).

If you are going to go down that Sun sign route of problem solving… Pluto is transiting the sign of Capricorn so that will intensify the dickishness of the Capricorns you know, as well as intensifying Capricorn in other ways – now is not the time to try to get us to be who you want us to be unless you’re completely crazy (like a Libra). But if you’re only using the Sun sign part of astrology you probably won’t understand what I just said other than the part where I said Capricorns are dicks (or called Libra crazy).

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the sun signs and who kills them

(hmmm…)

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This post is partly inspired by having read this other post – The Future of Astrology Blogging is Bleak – by Elsa Elsa – which is a rather interesting thing for an astrology blogger to say. The please don’t make me click on that link and read more stuff version of that post is – we all want quick fixes to our problems (and will settle for the first answer which offers us the easiest solution to a complicated issue/question). That post figured that Google was planning on taking over answering all our problems using no-need-to-click-further sound bites in our search results and that no one would bother looking/clicking further than that. So blogs would die while Google would live on (to become the face of Boe – Doctor Who reference in case you aren’t a fan). I disagree with that post (I actually think people are going in the opposite direction) but (I would think that, I always go in the opposite direction… not necessarily a Cap thing) it does make some salient points worth considering.

I do sometimes feel as though people aren’t willing to research in depth the issues which are important to them. They’re looking for someone else who has either already done it or will do it for them. But, being a people myself (I know, I know… Capricorns aren’t people but just pretend for a moment that we are), I sort of get that – I also sort of don’t get it because I love researching in depth (Mars in Scorpio/3rd house) but that can be more problematic than problem-solving, especially when it comes to astrology. Dig deeper into the subject and you tend to find out how much you still need to find out which… I don’t have enough time left in my lifetime to do that!!!

I do understand why you want to blame my Sun sign for all your problems, really I do…

(we’re kind of physically stiff so we make an excellent post for you to pin a target on us, and we’re stoic of psyche so we don’t wince when you throw darts at us, more often than not we smirk which makes you throw your darts harder because you don’t understand the what that smirk means, for you it’s provocative for us it’s our way of dealing with pain)

even though my Sun sign isn’t supposed to be understanding like that perhaps because the sign is ruled by Saturn and Saturn is (an insensitive child-eating-for-selfish-ego-survival-rather-than-nutritional-reasons a-hole) always saying to people (by natal position, aspects, and by transit) – get your shit together and stop passing your shit onto others because they have enough personal shit of their own to deal with and don’t want the burden of yours to add to the burden of theirs.

How would you like it if they did to you what you’re doing to them – empathy works both ways, y’know…

Geez! I could use my Sun sign as an excuse to be a total dick (more of a total dick than usual… some of that usual dick on my part is more due to other planets in my chart, like Mercury in Aquarius… a sign which is all about humanity rather than individual humans unless it’s about the Aquarian itself, then welcome to the anomaly in the space-time continuum) and if anyone calls me out on it I could say – I’m a Capricorn, I have a Sun sign license to dick you around! But… I also have other planets in other signs in my natal chart which don’t vibe with that jibe (effing Venus in Pisces… stop feeling the feelz of others!).

I know Capricorns are difficult to understand – try being one then maybe you’ be a little be more empathic… Oops! I just did a Cappy thing there, called you out on something which you don’t like to be called out upon. You see yourself as the king or queen of empathy and no one gets away with saying otherwise!

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(This comes from a rather awesome TV series – My Crazy Ex-Girlfriend)

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Yes, you’re a good person… but… do you need for others to be ‘bad’ to prove that you’re ‘good’?

I realise we all need a bit of that… to find our inner ‘hero’ due to someone else’s outer ‘villain’… because sometimes the only way we know we’re good is when others are bad… to us (according to us) and we don’t return the favour.

But sometimes we do return the favour, and we do to them what we don’t like them to do to us but we expect it to be okay if we do it (they did it first, blah, blah, blah, excuses allowed…) while it’s never okay when they do it (no blah, blah, blah, excuses allowed)… we’re always good in our eyes even when we’re bad (they made us be bad… otherwise we’d have been good), and those who we think are bad think they’re good and that we’re the baddies…. and other complicated human shit (where we’re allowed to be complicated and claim we’re simple while not allowing others to do and be the same thing…).

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Capricorn - content with your failure

(I am fai(lure)rly certain that I’m not reading this quote the way that I am supposed to…)

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It always surprises me how much ‘traffic’ (as in clicks, reads and comments) my Capricorn posts get (well, not all of them get it, only some of them do… mainly the one which is titled – Do you have relationships problems with a Capricorn? which isn’t my favourite… that one is this one – Confessions of a Capricorn. Not that many have read that one… perhaps it’s for the best).

If I were to merge my most popular Cappy post with the others, I’d probably ask that those who comment on their relationship problems with Capricorns would…

Please stop asking me if it’s unusual for Capricorns to cheat in relationships because you read somewhere in some generalised and superficial interpretation based on a Sun sign stereotype which no one now recalls who started it stated that Capricorns are faithful.

If Capricorns are faithful – they’re faithful to themselves first and foremost.

Please, please, please stop thinking that Capricorns are somehow not human… humans lie, cheat, steal, etc… why wouldn’t a Capricorn do that too!?

If someone cheated on you – they cheated on you.

Them being a Capricorn who is supposedly ‘not supposed to cheat’…

(I’ve never actually read that about my sign,

and going by some of the ‘famous’ Caps ‘not cheating’ is not a specifically Cappy thing, but other people say they have read that it is and that the sign is not supposed to do it… even though they do it…)

… isn’t going to make their cheating on you any different.

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Rules - Capricorn style

(um… the parameters for this are a bit vague… so… be cautious when dealing with such a cautious sign. You don’t actually have to anger someone, break their trust, screw them over for them to think that you did and then for them to justify what they do next because of what they’ve decided you did – and vice versa)

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Just because someone somewhere said Capricorns don’t cheat… who said it, why did they say it, what sign were they, and… why would you believe them over what has actually happened to you in your own experience?

I haven’t actually cheated on my partner (and we’ve been together for two times of the seven year itch), but is that because I’m a Capricorn (and supposedly not supposed to cheat) or because of other reasons, such as the opportunity to cheat has never presented itself (and if it has I’ve ignored it – Merc in Aqua can ignore the obvious rather easily), I’m too lazy to get involved in such a scenario which requires way too much commitment and effort, I don’t want to hurt someone I love like that because… some people never get over that kind of hurt inflicted on them (and they have so much hurt already due to being alive) so why do it if you can avoid doing it. I am a practical kind of lazy. I also have a lot of Virgo (Virgo rising, Moon and Pluto)… perhaps it’s that. Or perhaps… other stuff which is not astrological but human.

I should perhaps mention that I grew up in a family where my father was a serial cheater. He was slightly ‘famous’ and therefore the opportunity to cheat was multiplied because of the nature of his ‘slight’ fame. I’ve seen perfectly rational women throw themselves at him in a sexual offering manner as thought heir self-esteem depended upon it.

He was a Cancer Sun – so much for being a sensitive to others mother earth type.

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(this is my new best friend in a TV show form… for the next five seconds)

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He was very sensitive… he could find your hidden flaw which you tried so hard to hide from everyone (especially yourself) within seconds then he’d poke and prod it just to let you know he knew what it was. What he did (beyond poking and prodding it to let you know he knew it) with that information very much depended on whether you were stroking his ego or stabbing it.ย  There’s a fine line between carer and blackmailer.

He was very sensitive about himself all of the time and it was very tiresome… also tiresome was how insensitive he was to everyone but himself when it suited him (your father/mother loves you, their child, unconditionally until… *conditions apply).

His wife – my mother – was a long-suffering Leo who (wished that the sun shone out of her… and was very bitter that it didn’t) turned his cheating into her bid to be granted a sainthood. She ‘put up with it’ like her generation told wives they had to do when their husbands cheated on them – don’t take it personally, ladies… (which is actually good advice but good advice like that can go eff itself!) your husbands have far too much dick for you to cope with, let them spread it around because they’ll always come back to you when… their mistress demands as much from them as you do (actually more than you do because they want him to divorce you and marry them…haha, they think he won’t do to them what he did to you) and (suddenly their mistress who was so understanding when their wife wasn’t… has become a surrogate wife who just doesn’t understand them, and they remember that their wife is rather understanding because she puts up with shit which their mistress would never put up with) they really aren’t into those kind of demands!

It should be noted that she married him even though she was told that nothing good would come of it because they were from different ‘worlds’ which included different cultures – his culture supported cheating as a ‘normal’ part of relationships.

His long term mistress was a Sagittarius.

Make of that what you will… astrologically or otherwise. My experience of it from the sidelines made me a bit tired of the whole idea of thinking with your dick or vagina while it was stimulated by… stuff like that (such a Virgo rising thing to say, perhaps?)

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Circus/Monkeys - Polish Proverb

(such a clever proverb… so easy to say but… try getting out of someone else’s circus when they’ve given you a major role in it. And… watch yourself chase after anyone who tries get away from your circus… it’s my circus and so it’s yours too, you monkey!)

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One thing I learned from that palaver was… as much as humans say they hate all the mess which goes with the complicated consequences of having a relationship, their words and their actions often disagree.

If you can – keep it simple, logical, rational…

but humans tend to prefer to keep things complicated, illogical and irrational when given the option… and even when not given the option…

which is why we invented astrology and other similar systems (please be aware that I’m an INTP – we’re the irritating MBTI because we question everything and don’t care about rights, wrongs, and what the answers are… or so we say and try to live by what we say even when it kills us to do so).

Don’t do it = Do it, do it, do it!

So keep blaming Capricorns for all your problems with them and…

asking me to apologise, excuse and explain them to you because since I’m a Capricorn I can obviously explain to you every other person born in late December and early January, we’re all, of course, exactly the same person.

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srlsly cp

(what kind of BS is this!?!)

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15 thoughts on “Because they’re a Capricorn – is not the answer to your question

  1. That was a fun post to read ๐Ÿ™‚
    I don’t know much about Astrology (cool but complicated to me), I just like to look at the night sky, it’s fascinating. When I was a kid I dreamed to be an astronaut (I wanted to get away from my family as far as possible, the exploration of the galaxies was a nice addition to it :))
    I think that if someone wants to escape responsibility or just re-assign the blame tag, they’ll just use any excuse, regardless of the Zodiac Sign.

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    1. Thank you ๐Ÿ™‚

      Astrology is a rather useful tool (and not just for those looking for an easy reason to blame someone else for something). Using it has helped me accept some of the aspects of myself which I always felt I wasn’t supposed to accept – psychology, although helpful, can make you feel bad about everything within the psyche, as though everything human is somehow not normal, whereas astrology is far more embracing of the dark, the strange, the not easy to explain away. It sees duality as part of the balance of life, and shows how opposites, differences, work together. It also makes something like having a narcissist parent make sense in the whole picture of you as an individual.

      It can be complicated, especially if you try to understand it all, but it’s also simple – kind of like we are ๐Ÿ˜‰

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      1. That’s a great point.
        I used to read horoscopes at the back pages of some gossip magazines (an hour train ride to work has it’s perks), it kind of took my mind of things. If there was a prediction of something unpleasant it made me feel less upset about it when it actually happened, kind of “oh, well, that was inevitable” so why bother getting upset? ๐Ÿ™‚ I’m sure Astrology has a deeper and broader meaning than I was used to by reading those columns.

        My narc-mom drilled a hole in my head by saying that the reason she can’t make a decision in her own life (she always needed me to make a decision of any kind for her so she can blame me later for all of the sins of the universe) is due to her being a Libra and according to that Libras are unable to choose if presented with a choice. I don’t know about that, maybe she just made it up, but she was absolutely sure that she was entitled not to be held responsible for her own deeds because her Sign “gave her the right” to do so. And to top it up, it was my job making decisions for her. As an example, every morning she would come up to me and ask what should she wear, should she take an umbrella and so on. You can be sure that at the end of the day there were consequences for the choices I suggested. Whether or not I was on the spot, there was a colourful drama of sorts.

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        1. All Libras are nuts! ๐Ÿ˜‰ That’s my experience of them anyway… although some of them are nuts in a lovely way and it’s awesome. My mother was a Leo… effing Leo! I’ve met some pretty wonderful Leos… so like with everything, the labels vary according to the person wearing them.

          Being a Capricorn… most people assume I’m the devil incarnate. My history teacher told me I was a devil because I had red hair (so did he) – it was part of a history class about social opinion based on random criteria (witch hunts of the days of yore).

          Some people are terrified of responsibility – making decisions is a big responsibility.

          I have actually heard, read and repeated that particular aspect of Libra finding it hard to make decisions because I have some Libra placements in my natal chart and I totally waffle when it comes to making decisions (that could also be due to my Neptune in the 3rd house), but I frigging hate it if someone else tries to make a decision for me.

          I like being responsible for my own messes – learned that the hard way when I changed my mind over a decision to suit my mother and then regretted it because my original instinct was spot on. I told her not to trust someone with whom she wanted to do business – she bullied me (nagged and nagged until I stopped fighting because I was sick of hearing her go on and on about how right she was and how wrong I was) into saying I thought it was fine for her to do what she was going to do anyway because she was a bloodied-minded kind of Leo. It all went tits up, the person turned out to be exactly what I thought they were – a con artist. My mother got angry at me for not warning her – mainly because she felt embarrassed that her big chance at big fortune turned into a loss of money for her. She bitched at me… all my fault for letting her do what I could not have stopped her from doing.

          Narcissists are… he sign of the zodiac which wants to be the best of all the other signs while not having any of the worst of all the other signs… ๐Ÿ˜‰

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  2. I am a Leo (don’t kill me! ๐Ÿ™‚ ) and have been told that I’m a fairly typical one. I don’t know much about astrology and so don’t really know if being “typical” is good or bad. Probably both, like most things in life. I know that Leos are supposed to be arrogant, leadership wanna-be types who are big and broad and loud and earthy. I have some of that but the volume is turned down, I think. Earthy? Yes. Arrogant? Sometimes. Leadership? Not really. Like yourself, I am an INTP, and that’s a pretty good definition of how I function.

    In the end, though, human behaviour can often defy categorisation. We wind up being surprised by those we thought we knew well and not surprised by those we don’t know well at all (or as you would say – something like that).

    Fun post! I enjoyed reading it. ๐Ÿ™‚ (And on the personal front, I have secured a job – I’ll be moving 1500 km for a mid-August start. ๐Ÿ™‚ )

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    1. That’s great news (except for the commute bit)! ๐Ÿ™‚ Wishing you all the best!

      I wouldn’t kill you just for being a Leo ๐Ÿ˜‰

      When people say they’re a Leo I don’t usually start planning their demise, there really is only one Leo which has ever annoyed me, all the others I’ve met are awesome like you.

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      1. Thanks! ๐Ÿ™‚ I’m feeling quite relieved except for the moving part again, although that’s also starting to feel like a regular part of life. ๐Ÿ™‚ I remember you saying that I would land on my feet and also that the last job may have been the path to this job. I’m going to be helping some people who really need a leg up and I’m looking forward to that, so planning my demise would be counter-productive right now. ๐Ÿ˜‰

        I hope your summer is going well and all your house stuff is percolating along. ๐Ÿ™‚

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        1. Everything is fine with me and house, enjoying the challenge of this experience ๐Ÿ™‚

          I look forward to hearing about your future progress, hope you’ll keep sharing your adventures in leaping with faith in yourself into the unknown!

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  3. I just love when you write about astrology. Yeah I am that Leo/ Scorpio, but my South Node is in Capricorn, which means that I absolved those lessons in my previous lives, and now should let the emotions and my heart guide me (NN in Cancer)… I am on a Capricorn side and didn’t have any idea that they have so many negative press… It would usually go more to Scorpios, Geminis and Aries…at least from my experience. Here is a fresh text from one recognised Serbian astrologer about Herr Saturn…I used Google Translate, so if there is mistakes, still it’s quite understandable… I think you will like it… It explains why Saturn is actually awesome… The astrologer is Sanja Peric and here is the text:

    SATURN SECRET
    Sanja Peric

    Saturn is the planet’s most powerful yet. Not because astrologers say this, but you like everything else, people are the ones who give the power to something, the importance. So Saturn seems to still occupies the first place was that the man seen as benefactors or hardened wicked. O it is most talked about, it causes respect or awe of us, it is we fear the most, his transits can never fail. I am reminded of Nietzsche’s thought that one would go as Saturn’s motto – but which are attributed to him by the people themselves, “Let me hate – but let me be afraid!” And like those strictest professors, heavy character, never smiling, you with the same poker FEJS in and out of the cabinet and does not deviate from its principles, which are impossible to fascinate, delight, who always approaches everything as if they have already seen three thousand times – and Saturn in the sky as there are no favorites. Whether you’re making mandalas in his honor, was to repay debts in his honor, whether you see or read early fruit – it’s all the same.

    That he did not care as it flows Weather indifferent to our wishes, actions, thoughts, desires, ambitions, sadness ….

    Well then, what kind of secret Saturn knows this allows itself what we are so small and unfamiliar with the secrets of the cosmos and time by observing his works called pessimism, misanthropy, rigor, coldness, pain? What to Saturn hides and without guilt or dilemmas resolved not to depart, even when bringing good things and helping. Does it help like Jupiter because he believes in the eternal good, or the Month because he believes in the almighty power of caring for others? Not. It helps because it follows. For him to find the way. Even it does not matter who it is. Is it before it ran out rich or poor, sick or healthy. Sinner or saint. And all he gets in his way – not asking for help, such as Venus and not boasting of acts like the sun, without thinking about the benefits and the return to service, such as Mercury and not buying a good time and optimism like Jupiter, he embraces, and actually throw on their backs but support.
    Therefore, often whenever we find a text about Uranus where Uranus is celebrated as the unity of the universe, as some kind of brotherhood, just as he once more that same Uran brought communism and the slogan styles, it seems to me that today Uran only in the idea of โ€‹โ€‹living, the feeling of freedom so eager and willing to be a man of the New Era, in a lofty humanity, while the real remains of the man-highest and most powerful brothers draw from yourself whenever primer Saturn copied on it a little Alice. For those who do not know Saturn is the traditional ruler of Aquarius, Uranus today with the co-ruler.

    So, as to the fact that we are all equal before God (or the universe) always and forever the only Saturn really understands and knows. And how would not know when looking at the eternal suffering of each one of us, he sees one truth – that the suffering of the people no different. And while Jupiter will be measured coma to help (who is more unhappy), and see each other while the moon early one who shows him that he is most in need whether it be true or not, Saturn will understand the suffering of everyone alike. And the suffering of the rich people who get all the love of a lost loved ones, and suffering world-class beauty that is felt as a decoration on the lapel partners while dreaming of true love, neposedniฤkoj, and suffering poet who no longer what it says, because the world has ceased to inspire and children suffering as I suffer are silent and hide, and the suffering of the poor, the poor who suffer and live almost by heart, no desire and passion, because it has long been hoping for a better but not tired of life lived in the power up every morning.

    Therefore, the large Saturn. Therefore Saturn for joy and elation does not care one bit. Therefore, do not admire anyone because video is everyone’s pain. The complex. Debris beings. The weakness of the soul and body. And because Saturn is the only one still there when we need it most difficult. And when we ‘BEST’ eto him through, and only a small cast a shadow. But this is only a shadow of the shadow of time that such a precise naลกtelovanog wheel turns and reminds us: What up, now down, and vice versa. As a single year is not forever, not even winter. But time and the joy and the pain will always be. I cycled forever while Saturn wheels that clock turns.

    But when we were bad, when you do not know where, when you do not have with anyone, when you do not know who we are – that is Saturn to us with their callused bony fingers squeezed shoulder to sea ice penetrates to the core of our strength as one who knows that we can when we are convinced that we do not have that power. As one who knows all the lies we have forged for themselves, all the secrets that we hide from ourselves. Well, just one touch, which is read in trฤƒznit and aspects, we know that from it we can not escape that it will never be able to agree. That’s why a man is afraid of Saturn. Afraid because sometime unconsciously know and understand that we are facing Saturn with ourselves. Saturn gives us just what we realistically belong to, as much as I longed for greater il ‘were convinced that we can have the whole world if we surrender to this end. In fact, we can! BUT that it really happened, and teaches pre order, it is a million times to bend down, kneel down, and the way in which we take what we can find on the road as their own when it is not ours. As long as the answer, as a task, as a mission, like love, is not as difficult for me … And every circumvent, knowingly passing even the choice of other minor roads – what works? The answer to all you know about Saturn .. Returns us to try again. Maybe this time really to succeed.

    E because, when they are in the sky heavy Saturn periods like now, there are always those who will answer my mail as they achieved something great, as they are some great good hope came true. Just as the good aspects of his or Jupiter – there are always those who reported that none of this or that .. collapsed stories. What I want to say this is that Saturn as a carrier zodiac folders, as head of the topographical institute with all the painted roads and trails still shows clearly what is the path that lies ahead, what action is normally expected of us, and the more that is lightness – there is a growing sense of our times. And what is our weight and the more we resist, avoid, bypass – the greater the feeling that we are on the wrong road, or someone that we absolutely nip what does not belong.

    I used this trail is sunny and wide, was once neglected and dangerous, sometimes you encounter a landslide, sometimes not destroyed bridge, jam, sometimes pick someone up, or somebody picks up, because we are on the way. And this current Saturn’s orbit in the sky (currently in square Neptune) says: beware of slippery, there are holes, decay and decomposition under his feet, dodge and movement of soil. You will encounter in a pitch-dark, without electricity, without artificial vision where you will be able to use only the inner vision. If you fear you’ll see yourself wearing only horror and plaลกiฤ‡eลก, if you wear faith in yourself and predaฤ‡eลก gonna let you keep this Vera’s hand. S discharged, lighten, all superfluous lose the way or if you (from) to take, maybe even steal a little and I’ll lose it. Do not despair, just keep on walking. While the soles do not go bald, to ease barefoot. For what is the track where you are, if not your gejmbord …

    Lots of hugs from Germany Ursula von Capricorn! ๐Ÿ™‚

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    1. It’s lovely to hear from you and to know you are well ๐Ÿ™‚

      I love Sanja Peric! I particularly liked her take on the transit of Pluto in Capricorn. Deep views. Thank you for sharing her words!

      We all have all the signs within us. That’s one of the things I love about astrology, how it shows that all humans have all humans within them. If we have a beef with one sign, then it’s a good idea to check that sign out in our own chart before taking things out on someone outside of us. The answers usually lie within, or at least the solution to a problem with something or someone outside of us often resides within us.

      I like to remind myself every time I roll my eyes at a particular Sun sign that I’m rolling my eyes at a part of myself too ๐Ÿ˜‰

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  4. This is definitely one of the more comical blogs you’ve written, at least that’s how I took it, whether it was supposed to be or not is something else entirely. People are people, similarities & differences abound, perhaps some related to a sun sign, perhaps genetics, life experiences, in comes nature vs. nurture. Maybe people look to you for advice based on your writings simply for another perspective, or maybe they’re just projecting a-holes looking to “blame” the mystery person behind the screen. People are weird, who knows, awesome post though.

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    1. Thank you very much ๐Ÿ™‚

      I did write this humorously, so thank you for getting that! I’m not always sure if my humour comes across because as a Cappy I tend to deadpan it and in writing that can be tricky to get across. In person I’m at my most mischievous when I’m not smiling. And I also may not be as funny as I think I’m being ๐Ÿ˜‰

      Based on doing a lot of blog surfing and reading the comments on the posts of others, I reckon people ask for advice wherever they ask for it, it’s not necessarily about the blogger it’s about the person commenting, the moment takes over and they go for it. I think they’re mostly just looking for a place to share their story and they’re not necessarily looking for feedback or an answer. Quite a few of the people I reply to seem surprised that I read what they wrote and replied – so they’re not expecting the blogger to read their words or reply to them.

      Astrology forums have quite a few threads on ‘problems with Capricorns’. I read a funny one awhile ago where the person who started it got called out for going on all the other threads (regardless of what the subject was) and asking the same question about the Capricorn they were having a problem with. Forum members got fed up of answering this person’s question only to find them asking the same question again and again all over the place disregarding any answers given.

      People are definitely weird, and as long as their weird is compatible with our weird, we’re okay with it!

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  5. Haha. I love the image of the “what kills the signs”.. Capricorn cannot be killed. .. Probably true. 0.0 hahaha. love it love it.

    Mmm. But about other things, like Cappie coldness, I’m a Saggie with a strange addiction to a Cappie.. I sensed his warm-and-relatively-hidden side from the first time i met him.. and that’s one thing about him i fell in love with. The first thing!
    Is it strange to say that I fell in love with a cappie’s warmth first? Instead of only seeing his detachment /aloofness as being cold and disinterested? lol although to be honest, as a Saggie, I hardly care what others think. If i want something, I lunge for it, full force, full speed ahead! (Literally, sometimes…I swear, sometimes my Cappie expects full, head-on collisions with me… >.> )

    As for Cappie harshness/ coldness, etc in relationships, I think that what makes people blame them is because other signs don’t understand them, don’t see through the same lens, and just get confused and feel at a loss for answers… so.. at least saying “it’s a Capricorn thing” puts a label on the whole issue. Just.. if people don’t understand, can’t read through the lines, see all the unspoken meaning, then it’s obviously not something they can contend with and thereby it’s better to disown the whole responsibility of simple inability or inadequacy on their own part. Disowning that role in the issue makes it easier to cope with it and move on.

    Personally (though I .. begrudgingly admit to obsessing over my Cappie, sometimes to an unhealthy degree) I would fight tooth and nail for my Cappie and to prove that he’s got a warmer, purer heart than most of those who would question it. I’d stand up against anyone for my Cappie, biting at the bit to defend him. (Not like he needs it.. but i just don’t think i’d be able to sit still in that instance). Of course, I’ve learned from experience that things can’t be judged by appearances/ expectation, because a marriage vow didn’t gain a former partner’s loyalty. And I feel more loved and respected by my Cappie than my ex, and my Cappy’s never told me verbally he loves me. My ex told me almost every day. So.. appearances and words can be deceiving.
    (Though I do consider it nearly equivalent expression of love, considering my Cappie has told me he likes everything about me (as we were making love).)

    Hmm.. I think I do agree with you here in the article for sure that no matter what Sign or personality type you’re in a relationship with you have to be willing to accept someone’s love the way they want to give it, not the way you want to receive it. IT’s a sign of immaturity or just lack of wisdom and insight if a person can’t accept that people can only give love in the way they were programmed to.. Each of us is individual in that expression and if we’re wise, we’ll look at how a person expresses themselves and be able to understand if they love us.. not based on how we think we should receive love, but based on how they know best to give it..
    I know we don’t all interpret love signs the same and sometimes don’t ever feel fulfilled unless we are receiving love in a certain way, so may never understand the truth of the depth of someone’s feelings for us unless they communicate it in the manner WE ourselves are programmed so to speak…

    That begs the question then.. . If i am a Venus in Scorpio, and i feel like my love goes deeper than the depths that most are comfortable with.. or deeper than most would be able to give back, will i let myself be unhappy with every relationship because of a sense of a lack of fulfillment because I am measuring THEIR love based on my own internal gauge…?
    OR
    can I feel fulfilled by paying enough attention to my partner to see that the manner in which they give their love, and the extent to which it is apparent that they give it, and then, measuring their gift of love against their own internal gauge? Because my gauge and their gauge of love may be different. And no matter what size the pool of love is, if it is at 100% capacity, it is at 100% capacity. Yet, we may say, “this heart’s pool (of affection) appears by my eyes to be bigger. This other heart’s pool appears to be smaller”… But who are we to judge another person’s love, if they give the best they can give in the only way they know how? We have diminished their gift to something inconsequential by comparing our unrealistic expectation to the reality,.. which is that our partner still gave 100%. And no matter what, 100% is 100%! (I’m basing this on percentages of total effort here, regardless of how one perceives it, because it can look different in all our eyes.)

    Personally.. (if my Capricorn will speak to me ever again, bc he’s fallen off the face of the planet for the time being) I would say that.. even if my love is of a different type of depth and intensity, I would want to live by my Capricorn’s side forever, as long as he continued to show me in his own way that he loves me, too. I have learned to pay attention to the things he does and to read between the lines of the things he says, in order to understand him (as well as i think that i can at this point), and even though he loves different than me in some ways, it just makes me feel so happy when I’m with him and he shows me. His own style makes him unique to me. Partially because I can see the love between us where others don’t see it easily. So.. it’s almost a secret language between us, which makes it kind of fun for me, too. It makes me feel special that I’m the only one who gets to know that secret language with him. It makes our love feel a little bit deeper.

    But, There should be a realization that not every person can live happy when love languages are not the same, or understood and accepted between partners, so sometimes couples simply won’t be happy.. but that doesn’t mean that love didn’t exist. And it doesn’t mean that love wasn’t 100%. It’s just that we are all gazing at life through a different lens, which means experiencing love in our own way. That is a unique human predicament.

    (And I apologize.. I’m so smitten with my Cappie that I relate everything Cappie-related to him! >< I can't help it. ๐Ÿ˜ฆ Maybe Upturned feels like many people dislike cappies and cappies get the worst rap of all the Signs.. but for me.. I could list more than 100 things I love about my cappie, and many of those reasons be things that are supposed to be 'capricorn' traits.)

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    1. Thank you for sharing ๐Ÿ™‚

      I love what you said about love languages. It’s a great way of expressing it. There are times when I’m listening to someone discuss their love for someone else where I find myself thinking – that doesn’t sound like love to me. There are moments when someone’s ‘love language’ just is too foreign to me… or reminds me of the kind of love which my parents had for each other which was obsessive, controlling, all-consuming and a narcissistic nightmare. They were both always going on about love but neither of them seemed capable of actually loving anyone. When they ‘loved’ someone it was a form of bondage and often used as blackmail (eg. I love you therefore you must do such and such for me, be this for me, etc).

      Love, to me, is about learning about yourself and others.

      I do sometimes see Capricorn as the scapegoat of the Zodiac. But I’ve heard people of other Sun signs say something similar about their sign (except for Leos). If I wasn’t a Cap I’d probably be mystified by Caps too and might have bought into the stereotype ๐Ÿ˜‰

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