Narcie The Narcissist is a Problem Solving Genius

There are two kinds of people:

1 – Narcie

2 – everyone else

Narcie is very relieved that she’s a Narcie and not an everyone else because she’s a bit special and therefore could never be an everyone else.

People like Narcie often have BIG problems (and those BIG problems are always caused by everyone else).

Luckily Narcie is a genius at problem solving…

maybe that’s why problems are attracted to her, because they want Narcie to solve them in classic Narcie style.

Everyone else is not special enough to solve problems the way Narcie does. That’s why only the BIG problems are attracted to Narcie!

In the last episode:

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Narcie had a BIG LOVE BIG PROBLEM…

but now, thanks to making full use of her super natural psycholomagical skills, and friending her enemy, the evil Pathy, on NewFriendNET…

Narcie has found the perfect (or purrfect) solution...

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and is well on her way to getting the New Love of her New Life, Thero, to do what he’s supposed to be doing…

to notice (or ‘knowtice’ as Narcie would say it) her, Like her NewFriendsNET profile, and then wait on tenterhooks while Narcie ignores him, plays hard to get, and then if he’s good enough for her she may Like his profile back.

If you have a problem, and would like for Narcie to solve it for you…

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    • That’s an unspecific specific question. What are you referring to when you say “that kind of thing”?

      You can ignore the rest of this reply as I’m doing my INTP thing and there will be links.

      If the thinking behind your question was something along the lines of – Would a person get a cat just to attract friends? Then the answer can be found in the concept of – Want more friends, get a dog.

      Here’s an excerpt from an article about that concept:

      “It is quite well accepted by now that dog ownership has a positive effect on an individual’s health and psychological well-being. (See examples here or here or here.) For people dealing with loneliness and stress, a dog can be a vital source of both emotional and social support. (See an example here.) But the idea that dogs can also serve as a means of developing friends and social contacts is only now receiving some direct experimental attention. The most recent research on the topic was conducted by a team of investigators headed by Lisa Wood of the School of Population Health at the University of Western Australia. The experimental results were published in the journal PLOS One*.” – for the ‘here’ links and the rest of the article, go here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/canine-corner/201506/want-make-more-friends-get-dog

      If you go to an animal shelter intending to adopt an animal, many shelters will lecture you on the responsibilities involved in pet ownership because many of the animals which end up in shelters had owners who thought having a pet was similar to owning any other accessory/object (think Paris Hilton and her handbag dogs) rather than seeing the pet as an actual living being with needs and requirements of careful care.

      This is an excerpt from an article about adopting a cat:

      “Think seriously about this important step, which is much like entering into a marriage. Bringing a cat into your family should be a lifelong commitment, so give it serious thought. A good place to start is by understanding that no one truly owns a cat. Cats are sentient beings, and your cat (should you decide to welcome one into your home) deserves to be a family member rather than a “collectible.” If you are looking for a cat as an adornment to your home, you definitely should reconsider.

      However, if you’ve wanted a cat for some time, and think the time is right, read on. Here are some questions to ask yourself and other family members – you all need to share the commitment to make it work since the cat will be part of your family.” – via https://www.thespruce.com/before-you-adopt-a-cat-555302

      PETA is based on the perception that humans have a tendency to view animals as things (tools/objects to be used) rather than living feeling beings. Their motto is this: “Animals are not ours to eat, wear, experiment on, use for entertainment, or abuse in any other way.”

      If the thinking behind your question was something along the lines of – Do people really solve their problems like that? The answer is that advertisers sure think people do.

      Buy this toothpaste and the whiteness of your teeth will make you the most popular person ever!

      Feeling down in the dumps, what you need is this perfume as its scent makes everyone happy!

      Get a new car and own the road!

      Clickbait and superficial pop psychology also think people solve problems like that.

      5 easy ways to become successful!

      3 secrets which will change your life!

      1 simple way to go from loser to winner!

      Copy these successful people and become successful!

      While most people see through things like that and know that solving problems is not as easy and simple as swallow this magic miracle pill and all your ailments will be cured overnight and you’ll be rolling in money too (we promise, pinky swear, that it’s not a get-rich-quick-scheme for us and a fool-parted-from-their-money for you) without you having to do a damn thing, there are people who hope, wish, need to believe that life can be condensed into a formula which someone else will condense for them and all they have to do is 1, 2, 3, hey presto!

      Mind you most people can relate to the concept of – If I won the lottery it would solve all my problems – the only people who might disagree with that concept are those who have won the lottery and found that while it did solve all their financial problems which they had before the win, it brought a whole bunch of other problems with it, including new financial problems they didn’t know about. But still… it would be nice to win the lottery even if it meant having those kinds of problems, at least they’d be rich person problems 😉

      Narcie is a Narcissist, and narcissists tend to have a different approach to life and living than non-narcissists do. In a narcissist’s world everyone else (including other living beings like animals) are objects/tools/accessories to be used by the narcissist to get what they want. This is not just my perception of narcissists, you’ll find that view repeated by the majority of those who write about narcissists and have experienced a narcissist in their life.

      Even those who aren’t writing specifically about narcissists, or about psychology per se, sometimes pinpoint narcissistic behaviour/thinking/thinging (as in viewing living things as objects). An example of this is this excerpt from an anthropological philosophy article:

      “Choice and Responsibility in a Child

      All children want many things during their childhood, but they don’t understand the concept of choice very well. A child, for instance, will ask for many toys in a toy shop, and a parent might tell them that they have to choose which toy to buy. Sometimes, the parent might tell them that since they got their toys, now they have to repay the debt by eating their food, sleeping, or doing their homework. In other words, parents teach children that they cannot get everything; they have to choose something. They also tell children about responsibility and accountability—if you take this, you have to give that.

      Most children don’t like these two ideas. They resent the fact that they cannot get everything—”Why can’t I get all the toys I want?”—and they might throw tantrums in order to get what they want. They clearly don’t feel the necessity to work in order to get what they want. But most children also don’t understand that the consequences of their choice—whatever that may be—will be theirs alone. For instance, if they keep playing and disregard studying they might be poor later in life.

      As a child grows up, he or she is expected to learn about choice and responsibility—you cannot get everything so you have to choose what you want to take, and once you have made that choice, you are fully accountable for the consequences of making that selection. The relation between choice and consequence—i.e. which choice leads to which consequences—constitutes science, which enables the child to make the right choices, after knowing their true consequences. If you don’t know the relation between choice and consequences, you are likely to make the wrong choice, and therefore everyone must be educated about the true relation between a choice and its consequences. Children must learn that they have the freedom to make choices, but that their choices are not totally free because they lead to consequences, and having made a choice, one has to bear the consequences.” – via https://www.ashishdalela.com/2018/01/12/human-one-understands-choice-responsibility/

      Narcissists appear to non-narcissists to be stuck in a child-like state of experiencing the world and everything and everyone in it. Most people have a bit of this within them (we can all be child-like at times), but it’s leveled out by other ways of experiencing the world and everything and everyone in it.

      Narcie is a personal creation of mine, so she reflects my own experience of the narcissists in my life – how I perceive narcissists. How others experience and perceive my episodes of Narcie is out of my control and not something I want to control as the reactions it evokes are a part of the creative process, and learning. What I think I’m saying in a Narcie ‘comic’ and post may not be what others see and hear.

      I have no idea what you saw and heard while looking at this Narcie episode – you’ll have to elucidate that for me. But only if you would like for me to know how you experienced it.

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      • My apologies, I suppose my question was very open to interpretation and unclear. Getting a cat to impress someone doesn’t surprise me, sadly, I’ve seen it done, and then the cats are not properly cared for once that plan backfires. The part where Narcie befriends Pathy only because she wants Thero’s attention was really what I was questioning. It seems, junior high-ish. I get trying to have the same interests as someone one is interested in, I think that happens all the time, people try to establish a common ground, but to play nice to someone in an attempt to see what someone else sees in them so you can appear in the same manner sounds like it would take a ridiculous amount of time and energy. But I also suppose then that in typing this out, I answered my own question, because as you have described in many of your posts, using people and being child-like is pretty much the M.O. of a narcissist. Thanks for all the links and the thorough response, I do always appreciate your point of view.

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        • Thank you for explaining 🙂

          While I love questions, asking them and having them asked of me, it’s always more interesting to know the story, thinking and feeling, behind the question. Often in telling the story behind our question, we find the answer to it within our story, like you beautifully showed. It also reveals that you have a healthy approach to being yourself and to relationships – that is a valuable asset, so treasure it!

          Probably the most OTT example of what Narcie is doing with Pathy is in the film – Single White Female.

          Similar examples can be found in the TV show – Catfish. Particularly those cases where people use the pics of someone else, someone they view as being popular and attractive to others, in their online profile. Often they say they did it because they didn’t think anyone would like them as they actually look. While they’re using someone else’s pic to represent them, they are usually being themselves in other respects which mitigates matters a bit (and we can all relate to a degree to the kind of self-esteem issue which causes someone to hide themselves behind a mask). Some people take it further and adopt a completely different character to their own – a fake persona to go with the pic which isn’t theirs. Beyond the damage which these sort of people do to others, one of the most difficult problems with this kind of behaviour is when pretending to be someone else results in being successful with it. Fake-you is liked and popular, so what happens to real you? You can never reveal real you to those who love fake-you as that will get real you into deep shit, hated and rejected. This kind of person ends up blaming others for what they did to others, because if people hadn’t liked their fake self then they wouldn’t have needed to keep up the act (the twisted logic of a narcissist).

          There’s a popular quote online which says: “Become the person you want to be” or “Be the person you want to be” – which most people can interpret appropriately, but which a narcissist would take literally. There’s a similar idea expressed in this online quote: “Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.” – which a narcissist would read in a literal manner (it may even be a quote from a narcissist).

          The idea of making friends with people as a means to an end is an old concept. It’s advice you’ll find repeatedly in pop-psychology books which are selling people tips to become powerful, successful, and popular. Expending energy to dress for success, fake it till you make it, win friends and influence people, to belong to the social group which will help advance your career, your social status, your ambitions, is encouraged – in fact in some sectors it is considered weird if you’re not doing it.

          There are countless memes, quotes and articles about ‘fake’ friends, and how to tell the difference between people who are real versus fake friends.

          Sometimes it’s a very good thing to not be able to understand why a person would do what they’re doing, even if it is frustrating at times because you’re the type of person who seeks to understand others. 🙂

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  1. Is that a symbolic cat in the trash can under Narcie’s desk?

    This gives me the shivers a bit because if Narcie’s behaviour was pointed out to her, she wouldn’t get it, wouldn’t see it, would think you’re crazy, jealous or envious. Sometimes, the visceral reaction I get from some of the things I read about narcissism is pretty powerful. I feel sorry for the cat.

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    • OMG does the trash look like a cat!?! I didn’t mean for it to look that way – it’s just supposed to be screwed up paper! My drawing style is slapdash. The idea for the episode comes first and then my fingers have to draw it quickly, hurry up, we don’t have all day! Mind you, even if I did have all day it would look the same, maybe even messier.

      I did make at least one error which I’m just going to leave as is (since online communication tends to have typos) – Pathy’s cat’s name.

      You’re right, Narcie “wouldn’t get it, wouldn’t see it, would think you’re crazy, jealous or envious” if you pointed out that her methods and manner were shiver-inducing in everyone else but her. If she incited a shiver in you she’d most likely consider it a ‘win’ as you didn’t ignore her and might not be able to forget her. Narcissists are kind of aiming for being the thing you can’t unsee once you’ve seen it.

      I think it’s a sign of being healthy (whatever that is) if what you read about narcissism causes a visceral reaction. While visceral reactions are uncomfortable and what modern civilised humans want to avoid at all costs if possible, it challenges us to feel, experience and think for ourselves, and figure out personally what we do want and don’t want for ourselves, and then maybe make the connection between ourselves and our do wants and don’t wants, and others. Perhaps if we don’t want this, others don’t want it either – so maybe we shouldn’t do to others what we don’t want others to do to us, and maybe expecting others to do what we don’t want to do is a bit rich. Perhaps if we want this, others want it too… and maybe that’s why we all fight so much because someone taught us somewhere that only one person can have what we all want – why can’t we all have it?

      I don’t think I’m going to let Narcie actually get a cat. A spanner is bound to end up in those works. Of course if this was a real life scenario, and Narcie was a real person who had made up her mind… but she’s not that! I’m in control of a narcissist here… how could this possibly all go wrong!?!

      TY for commenting as it gives me a lot of encouragement ❤

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      • I thought it looked like a suggestion of a cat or symbolic cat or foreshadowing cat – the idea that cats will curl up in unlikely places combined with Narcie’s carelessness. I questioned whether you were suggesting something like that and then thought you might be. I realised later that my own experiences with my ex-N were perhaps informing my interpretation. He was supposedly the biggest animal lover of all time with a particular fondness for cats, but it was me who cared for them and in the end he abandoned them (symbolically “threw them away” although they were safe and loved with me). So sorry, I didn’t mean to horrify you!

        You are so right about the narcissistic penchant for shock, except for them it’s mixed up with their belief that they’re being thought of as shrewd, unconventional and edgy. My ex-N thought he was so cagey and smart in trying to “manipulate” money out of me – I just wanted him out of my life.

        I agree that a visceral reaction is healthy. It’s protective and tells me that I’ve learned things – that I can apply from one situation to another.

        You are welcome. 🙂 This series is great and I keep trying to predict what will happen next – I didn’t see poor Pathy coming. 🙂

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        • I love your take on it, what you saw, you went deeper into it than I did, and I’m glad you shared it. I sometimes do put subtle nuances, references, sub-stories, easter-eggs, into what I create and wonder if anyone will pick up on it. There are times when I only notice I’ve done that much later on and it can be surprising because I hadn’t intended it when I did it. The subconscious is always expressing itself, messaging us through us. We’re sort of an i-phone for our underlayers.

          Narcs tend to have both a blindness to their behaviour and an awareness of it which you’d think couldn’t work together but somehow does. I think because they split everything up (black and white thinking), keep the good/right side of it for themselves and transfer/project the bad/wrong side of it onto others. The question of whether narcissists are aware or not of themselves being narcissistic really confuses people, because it is a confusing system for everyone else who doesn’t live in splittingsville. The average narc is both aware and not aware simultaneously – they see themselves as innocent while everyone else is guilty, and if they find themselves to be guilty it’s only because they were reacting to someone else who is far guiltier than they could ever be. They had to be bad and do wrong because someone badder and wronger made them do it.

          They’ll do something awful but have a reasonable explanation, excuse and reason for it (it’s good when they do it, it’s only bad when others do it), so they’re blinkered about it. At the same time they’ll be paranoid about others doing that awful thing to them, and will suspect everyone of having nefarious intentions especially when others don’t – narcs often miss suspecting those who do have nefarious intentions, in fact they tend to trust con artists more readily than they trust honest folk, and are totally blind to the con artist being a con artist while believing that the honest folk are all out to screw them over.

          Your ex would have been paranoid about others trying to manipulate him to get money out of him (but would have most likely trusted anyone who was actually trying to do that but only if they were con artists. Genuine creditors to whom he owed money would have been seen as greedy con artists he had unmasked and who deserved to never get paid by him), and he would have seen his manipulating you to get money out of you as him being the hero trying to get what he was owed and deserved from a villain who was victimising him by trying to keep him from getting what was rightfully his.

          It’s so frigging twisted… don’t regret doing what you had to do to get out and away. I know sometimes there’s a temptation later on to review and regret having ‘given in’ to a narcissist, to wish you’d known what you know now and have done things differently, but what you did then was effective. If a narc comes back for more, that is because that’s what they do, they move around in a circle digging the rut ever deeper, it’s not because of you but it does give you the opportunity to confirm your past choices and re-affirm your position.

          The next Narcie episode hasn’t revealed itself to me yet. One thing which is kind of useful though about narcs going around in circles is that I can use the same drawings over and over 😉 I want to do some back story to Narcie to get to know her better, but she may prove to be elusive.

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