I thought I’d do this because I can. I’m very grateful that I can do things because I can. For many years I didn’t think I could do anything.
And the few things I thought I could do, I couldn’t do them because I was told not to do them. If I did them anyway, I’d be told – U R Doing it Wrong!
Doings things which I enjoy doing is something I’ve only recently learned how to do without feeling bad about it.
Over the last 24 hours two bloggers with very different blogs mentioned in their respective posts…
A Guy Called Bloke and K9 Doodlepip: What do you consider …
Patience of Willow: A mish-mash of thoughts
…that they’d received emails from people following their blog telling them how they should do things and how they shouldn’t do things on their blogs.
I have a message for those emailers – Don’t do that in your emails to bloggers!
See how it feels. That’s how you made those bloggers feel.
I’ve done shit like that, offering someone unsolicited honest constructive criticism, thinking I was being helpful… I wasn’t being helpful.
I was repeating a pattern I’d been taught. Doing to others what had been done to me. But I didn’t like it when others did that to me, so why did I think that others would like it when I did it to them.
Some of the simplest lessons are the most difficult to learn, and put into practice.
Speaking of the complexity of simplicity… last night I came across a brilliant challenge, it looked like fun, and I thought I’d do it because I can.
The Writing Challenge “One” was created by Victoria Ray of RayNotBradbury, and is open to anyone who would like to do it.
Rules: answer 11 questions below.
1. One person who inspired you.
There’s a lot written about the negative side of engaging in social media. I’ve been lucky in my interactions, my experiences have mostly been positive.
I have had a few rather tame negative experiences.
One of those was with a person who at first seemed like a kindred spirit, but as our online relationship progressed the friendship dream turned into a bit of a familiar nightmare.
That familiar nightmare opened up the floodgates for me on years of buried gunk. The person was a negative muse who inspired me to finally break my silence.
2. One moment that changed the course of your life.
When I broke my silence and started to share my life stories on my blog.
Here are a few of those stories, plus stats (comment stats include my replies) because knowing so many people were reading my stories had a challenging and changing impact upon me:
How To Play The Narcissist’s Game – 415,744 views, 56 Likes, 459 comments
Are You a Magnet for Narcissists? – 220,943 views, 86 Likes, 573 comments
Being A Child of Narcissists – Breaking the Silence – 133,856 views, 35 Likes, 324 comments
3. One thing that you would change about yourself, your life, the world.
I’ve found that when I go through an internal personal change, it changes how I see myself, how I perceive my life, and how I experience the world.
Sometimes, after an internal change, I discover that something I wanted to change about myself, my life, the world, didn’t need to change at all. What needed to be changed was my attitude towards it which fixed me at a certain narrowed viewing angle and skewed my perception, but the attitude only changes when it is ready to do so.
I am very hesitant about doing certain things – I’d like to boldly go and do what I am very hesitant to go and do.
4. One hero/heroine from past/or present.
The person who did this – World Record Egg
I only found out about it last night when I read this article – The Atlantic: The Race to Monetize the World-Record Instagram Egg
I always admire people who have zany ideas which open the doors of perception to a million different ways of seeing the same thing.
5. One cultural recommendation (film, book, song, painting).
Film: Dreams of a Life (2011)
Book: The Outsider by Colin Wilson
“The Outsider wants to cease to be an Outsider. He wants to be ‘balanced’. He would like to achieve a vividness of sense-perception (Lawrence, Van Gogh, Hemingway). He would also like to understand the human soul and its working and, be ‘possessed’ by a Will to power, to more life (Barbusse and Mitya Karamazov). He would like to escape triviality forever. Above all, he would like to know how to express himself because that is the means by which he can get to know himself and his unknown possibilities.”– Colin Wilson, The Outsider
Song: The Last Resort – Eagles
“Who will provide the grand design, what is yours and what is mine?
‘Cause there is no more new frontier, we have got to make it here
We satisfy our endless needs and justify our bloody deeds
In the name of destiny and in the name of God
And you can see them there on Sunday morning– Glenn Frey/Don Henley, Eagles – The Last Resort
Stand up and sing about what it’s like up there
They called it paradise, I don’t know why
You call some place paradise, kiss it goodbye”
Painting: The Treachery of Images by Magritte
6. One challenge the world is facing.
No longer being able to avoid the consequences.
7. One great thing that we have achieved.
Half the world is burning up, the other half is frozen. Half the world is starving, the other half is dieting. Half the world has more money than they need, the other half don’t have enough money to meet their basic needs. Half the world is building walls, the other half is tearing walls down. Half the world is pointing the finger at the other half. Half the world is crazy, and so is the other half.
8. One regret
I wish I’d known then what I know now. It just takes me so damn long to learn life lessons. But they are complex puzzles.
9. One nugget of advice for humanity.
10. One alternative career path you might have chosen.
11. One thing that you could do better, but you don’t.
That’s it from me…
Over to you!