Cementing Thoughts

Well, it’s almost perfect… especially considering that I have no idea what I’m doing and what I do is done my way which is the path of the mistake-making mess.

Mess did happen, as did mistakes, but luckily things smoothed out almost perfectly.

I’m sure someone else can find fault and flaw with it, and downgrade it from almost perfect to not at all anywhere near even almost perfect, not even near okay…

and yes, I did smooth it out a bit more…

shit that someone finding fault and flaw is me, but I know that already 😉 !

What I didn’t know that I was going to take an ‘after’ picture (see below):

So I didn’t take a ‘before’ picture.

However the ‘before’ of it sort of looked like the other bathroom’s window, albeit it was a little less deconstructed than that one, and that will require more work to fix.

Anyway… it looked something like this (see below) in its ‘before’:

I was supposed to do the cementing yesterday, but got sidetracked by something else and decided to do it today – glad I made that decision because I was more focused on what I needed to do today than I was yesterday.

Sometimes a delay, and procrastination, is exactly what needs to happen for something to get done better than it would have been done had you pushed through, forced yourself.

“A vacation is what you take when you can no longer take what you’ve been taking.”

― Earl Wilson

While working on this segment of this DYI project, I found my thoughts kept returning to a post I’d skim-read this morning which several of the bloggers that I follow had reblogged.

I’m not going to link to the original post because even though it is well-written and overall its message is good, there’s something about it which bothered me, there’s something about that particular blogger which bothers me – I could just be being an a-hole about it and them… I’ll figure things out later, maybe.

I think it came to mind while I was cementing because once cement dries it becomes hard to remove. So if you regret what you did once it is set, it’s going to require a chisel and a hammer, and a lot of effort to change things. It’ll also make an even bigger mess than when it was being applied.

It’s all soft and squishy at first… but then it’s rock hard. Thoughts are kind of like that too, especially those thoughts which solidify and insist that such and such is reality.

When someone says something along the lines of – this is how people should be to be considered good people, successful people, people worthy of our good opinion, etc… that thing they said is soft and squishy.

Is it true, are they right, or are they making stuff up, creating a reality, and they’re hoping we’ll believe it (hoping we won’t do due diligence and check out if they’re walking their talk, living the life they’re claiming to live, are who they say they are, aren’t a narcissist, etc), trust them as an ‘expert’ perhaps, agree with them (because it suits us and our own reality creating to do so), help them to harden what they said into a real true thing which will become a set in stone thing.

If we buy into what they’re selling and help them to make it popular, then their soft and squishy slowly hardens into social criteria, becomes the norm, and soon everyone will be spouting it as though it’s the true truth, using it to judge others, judge themselves, be judged by others by it.

It’s set like stone now… it’s going to be tough to remove it.

Isn’t it a shame that future generations can’t be here to see all the wonderful things we’re doing with their money?

– Earl Wilson

That’s it…

Over to you!


        • Those sort of posts tend to be written in a style designed to make those reading them feel insecure, inadequate, doubtful, and thus eager to install in their minds whatever the person writing them is saying.

          While a few of those can be informative, for the most part they’re just repeating the same info with maybe different words, and kind of sucking the fun out of an activity which is fun until someone sucks the fun out of it with unofficial rules and regulations. It’s a bit like those who suck the fun out of living by telling us we’re doing it all wrong, and should do it their way – but is their way really good, or are they misery seeking company… and do they follow their way?

          You’ve got a unique blog, and your style of blogging is different and interesting, you’re very much you sharing you – to me that’s the real secret of successful blogging.

          If we all did the same thing and followed the advice of bloggers who blog about blogging and don’t seem to do any other kind of blogging, the blogosphere would be rather dull 😉

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          • I agree with you, and thank-you for the compliment.
            I started reading a lot of blog advice when my blog started growing, but I would rather try to write interesting articles than spend all my time trying to promote them.

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  1. I don’t like the word squishy. It’s a good word, but it’s so evocative. Yucky things. Gross things. Ewww. So I think I get what you’re saying. Squishy becomes solid and then you’re hooped. This is the shape it’s supposed to be and it’s always going to stay that way.

    I remember a comment you made to me long ago (probably four or five years ago) about recognising how people (or a person) make you feel. If you’re questioning your purchase, go with that. I know you will, but sometimes it helps if people support you in doing that. 🙂


    • Thank you, Lynette 🙂 that’s very sweet!

      I was just doing that INTP thing of noticing something, paying attention to what caught my attention, and then going hmmm… about it, and expanding on it in my mind, connecting it to other things I’ve observed and gone hmmm… about, and relating it to what I was doing while the thoughts popped up and bobbled around in my mind space.

      I tend to think a lot about the creation of human reality especially when I’m doing something which is sort of creating a reality. A regular set of questions which comes up is – Why is this a thing? When and how did it become a thing? Why did this idea catch on, while that other idea didn’t? Why do people like this and not that?

      I do trust how things and people make me feel and go with it, but I like to know the substance, cause and origin of the feeling. There are subtle differences in the texture of feeling which are worth exploring for more info – sometimes it can untie a knot and dissolve an old cemented concept 🙂

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