I love it when seemingly random things come together…
This morning I was browsing Psychology Today and came across an article:
It’s not what’s in the article, but the name included in the title which came together with something else I was browsing a while after…
After having forgotten about the article.
After checking out what a couple of my favourite astrology blogs had to say about transiting Jupiter moving in Capricorn today, and its long stay there, plus its joining of forces with transiting Venus, Saturn and Pluto which are all already in the sign.
Here are those posts if you want to check them out too:
I kind of felt unsatisfied after reading those posts, as though something… real? … was missing from the astrological narrative.
So I decided to pop over to Astrotheme and search for people born with Jupiter, Venus and Saturn, and anything else in Capricorn to see what those energies look like in people form, in living life form, in experiential form.
And William James, the very same one who is referenced in the PT article, appeared in the results.
He had Jupiter, Saturn, Venus, Mercury, Moon and Sun all in Capricorn… so he was quite the super Capricorn. He didn’t have Pluto in Capricorn, but it did square his Sun, Mercury and Moon, adding its energy to the mix from Aries.
I haven’t read any of his books, but just by perusing his quotes on Wikiquote, I feel somehow reassured.
It’s nothing specific… there’s just a sense of grounded earthiness, with just the right amount of optimism – of a kind which does not tip over into the overly idealistic.
One thought has been on my mind recently – I’m really fed up with all the criticism.
Not so much of the personal kind (I grew up in an overly critical of me environment… with narcissists who love to point out what’s wrong with everyone else and then innocently wonder why everyone else hates their company), but more so of the impersonal, the collective critical mind which seems focused on pointing out faults and flaws, on lifting itself up by putting others down, of making itself feel clever or safe by making others feel stupid, unsafe… and then wondering naively why others are attacking such a flawless, faultless, clever and safe specimen of humankind.
It seems as though the only thing people notice in others these days is what is wrong with them, how they look wrong, where they went wrong, what they did wrong, what they said which was heard as something wrong. It’s reached the point where none of us want to interact with others because it’s too painful… regardless of whether we’re on the side of being told we’re wrong or on the side of telling someone else they’re wrong.
Dimentichiamo tutto con un Amen…
In case you can’t see the embedded video, it’s Francesco Gabbani’s Amen (he’s a Virgo Sun, with only Lilith in Capricorn, I’ve included this here because I like the song, it speaks of the shit we’ve been up to collectively).
Perhaps one of the benefits of Pluto in Capricorn is that it’s gradually counteracting the effects of the generation, which includes me, who have natal Pluto in Virgo… the effects of which is still being felt. Pick, pick, pick, pick, pick… destroying others and self in an effort to achieve some illusory concept of perfection. But anything or anyone who gets close to being perfect… has to be destroyed too. So we want perfection but hate it when we get what we want!?
It’s time to stop that bullshit, don’t you think, since it’s made us all rather miserable.
Increasing our self esteem by decreasing someone else’s. Bigging ourselves up by making others small. Feeling better about ourselves due to making someone else feel worse about themselves. Focusing on the flaws of others to make ourselves feel less flawed. These are all shortcuts to get something for ourselves which doesn’t last very long when we do it the shortcut way… so we have to keep doing it… and that drug just doesn’t work anymore.
Enter the super Capricorn to tell us all some hard, blunt truths…
The quote above sounds like Jupiter in Capricorn talking. Faith is a Jupiter thing, and authenticity, the true self, is a Capricorn thing.
It sounds great, but who is your true self? How do you locate your true self in amongst all the selves within you and outside of you? Which of those many selfies you’ve taken and shared is really you? Yes, they’re all really of you… but which one is you-you?
Luckily there’s another super Capricorn who explored the matter of who is you-you and who is not you-you but another you which is you but not you-you…
And he did it in a typically practical Capricorn manner, by practicing what he was preaching on himself to test it, make sure it was sound, grounded in reality, making mistakes and learning from them, growing up bit by bit, taking the long hard road to maturity… never being certain if maturity had been reached, but that’s okay because self doubt is as useful as everything else which is a part of your human self.
Here’s his natal chart:
He had Jupiter, Saturn, Mercury, Moon and Sun in Capricorn. With Pluto forming an inconjunction with Sun and Saturn, adding some Gemini energy to the mix.
Again, I haven’t read any of his books, but exploring his quotes once again feels reassuring.
He has a comfortable acceptance of being a messy human trying to figure things out as he experiences being and living.
He’s very open about his errors, not ashamed of them, but aware of the shaming element which hounds humans and the human experience.
“I found myself doing this same thing—playing a role of having greater certainty and greater competence than I really possess. I can’t tell you how disgusted with myself I felt as I realized what I was doing: I was not being me, I was playing a part.”― Carl R. Rogers, A Way of Being
He was a big supporter of the value of empathy… which is intriguing because “empathy” is not an association which is often made with the sign of Capricorn.
And yet, there he is, a super Capricorn embracing empathy, advocating the use of it in both his professional sphere…
“The third facilitative aspect of the relationship is empathic understanding. This means that the therapist senses accurately the feelings and personal meanings that the client is experiencing and communicates this understanding to the client. When functioning best, the therapist is so much inside the private world of the other that he or she can clarify not only the meanings of which the client is aware but even those just below the level of awareness. This kind of sensitive, active listening is exceedingly rare in our lives. We think we listen, but very rarely do we listen with real understanding, true empathy. Yet listening, of this very special kind, is one of the most potent forces for change that I know.”― Carl R. Rogers
And personal sphere of life…
“When I have been listened to and when I have been heard, I am able to re-perceive my world in a new way and to go on. It is astonishing how elements that seem insoluble become soluble when someone listens, how confusions that seem irremediable turn into relatively clear flowing streams when one is heard. I have deeply appreciated the times that I have experienced this sensitive, empathic, concentrated listening.”― Carl R. Rogers
For me personally, what I like most about his words and ideas is the focus on authentic authenticity (a term I heard the other night while watching a bit of the first episode of a TV series wherein a character was trying to explain to another the difference between real authenticity and faux-authenticity – the other character didn’t care to see the difference… and I didn’t care to see the show beyond what I watched of it, which wasn’t very much but enough to know I wasn’t going to see more than that).
On being really real, for your own sake, for your own self care.
“I find it very satisfying when I can be real, when I can be close to whatever it is that is going on within me. I like it when I can listen to myself. To really know what I am experiencing in the moment is by no means an easy thing, but I feel somewhat encouraged because I think that over the years I have been improving at it.”
― Carl R. Rogers, A Way of Being
Being real with yourself… is the main step to being real with others.
And embracing your own real makes it easier to embrace the real of others…
So your self care becomes the care of the self of others too.
Now some may come across this post and focus in on what’s wrong with it… and may feel the need to point it out to me just in case I thought it was okay and was feeling good about it, and myself…
To those people I would say this – if you were me and I did that to you, how would you feel about it? How would you react to it? So…?
I’m a Sun in Capricorn, with natal Saturn squaring Sun from Aries… I’m used to being told that everything I do is not good enough (it comes with that aspect, if others aren’t doing it to me, then I’m doing it to myself, both may occur simultaneously), and while the only planet I have in Capricorn is the Sun, so I’m not a super Capricorn by any stretch of the astrology, I have taken a similar direction as Carl Rogers about the judgements of others about me.
“evaluation by others is not a guide for me. The judgments of others, while they are to be listened to, and taken into account for what they are, can never be a guide for me. This has been a hard thing to learn.”
― Carl R. Rogers, On Becoming a Person: A Therapist’s View of Psychotherapy
Hard lessons to learn are often the most valuable, especially in the long term. Once you learn them… you’ve learned them, even if you may have to do some re-learning of them every now and then in case you forget.
All of this transiting planetary pile-up in Capricorn will be and has been crossing over my Sun, aspecting natal Saturn and natal Pluto (which aspects my Sun with a beneficial trine) in the process.
Transiting Pluto has been there and is done with that, it’s heading towards my Mercury now, but that’s in Aquarius so it’s got a while to go.
Transiting Saturn is almost finished grinding on my Sun… it’s been quite nice really, but maybe that’s because I’ve been cooperating with it.
I’ve noticed lately that I’m opening up in ways I never did before to experience, which is also causing a closing off of areas I should have shut down much earlier…
I’m no longer putting up with people who disrespect me and my boundaries, or who I experience as doing that even if they don’t experience themselves as doing that, and maybe they’re not doing that… but I feel like they are.
But to do that I have to cross some lines I drew in the sand for myself, I have to go against my own rules for myself, ones which I pride myself on following. But if what you pride yourself on doing becomes a weapon which others may use against you or anything along those lines… maybe it’s time to stop it. Maybe it’s time to let that particular prideful thing fall and get stomped on by you. That ego drug ain’t working anymore.
I was thinking about the above when I read the article below, and several others connected to that one by the same author, the other day:
I’m not elaborating further than that… I’m not in elaborating mode at this time.
On a parting note, here’s something super interesting to ponder upon from super Capricorn Carl Rogers (via his Wiki entry) about what he views as being part of a “fully functioning person” – in some ways it’s the formula to counteract being narcissistic:
- A growing openness to experience – they move away from defensiveness and have no need for subception (a perceptual defense that involves unconsciously applying strategies to prevent a troubling stimulus from entering consciousness).
- An increasingly existential lifestyle – living each moment fully – not distorting the moment to fit personality or self-concept but allowing personality and self-concept to emanate from the experience. This results in excitement, daring, adaptability, tolerance, spontaneity, and a lack of rigidity and suggests a foundation of trust. “To open one’s spirit to what is going on now, and discover in that present process whatever structure it appears to have” (Rogers 1961)
- Increasing organismic trust – they trust their own judgment and their ability to choose behavior that is appropriate for each moment. They do not rely on existing codes and social norms but trust that as they are open to experiences they will be able to trust their own sense of right and wrong.
- Freedom of choice – not being shackled by the restrictions that influence an incongruent individual, they are able to make a wider range of choices more fluently. They believe that they play a role in determining their own behavior and so feel responsible for their own behavior.
- Creativity – it follows that they will feel more free to be creative. They will also be more creative in the way they adapt to their own circumstances without feeling a need to conform.
- Reliability and constructiveness – they can be trusted to act constructively. An individual who is open to all their needs will be able to maintain a balance between them. Even aggressive needs will be matched and balanced by intrinsic goodness in congruent individuals.
- A rich full life – he describes the life of the fully functioning individual as rich, full and exciting and suggests that they experience joy and pain, love and heartbreak, fear and courage more intensely. Rogers’ description of the good life: “This process of the good life is not, I am convinced, a life for the faint-hearted. It involves the stretching and growing of becoming more and more of one’s potentialities. It involves the courage to be. It means launching oneself fully into the stream of life.” (Rogers 1961)
The sun is setting now here in the UK… it’s perfect as it is and so are you, and you, and you…
Let the sunset that you are be beautiful as is…
If you decide to comment on this post, you have to say something really real about yourself and say it as though you were talking about a sunset which you are making love to with your eyes and other senses.