Sometimes I Climb the Walls and Lie on the Ceiling
Can you remember the last film you watched? Did you love it or loathe it? What was it about? And what was it about it which made you want to watch it (and then maybe wished you hadn't done that)? Do you have a favourite movie? Why is it your favourite? Is it the story... Continue Reading →
So it's Christmas, and you have a narcissist in your life who expects to get what they want or else... But what is it that they want? Do they want fame? Fortune? Eternal youth? Immortality? Attention? Everything? Well, yes... but even if you could give them all of that, there's probably something else they want... Continue Reading →
Do narcissists know it's Christmas? Do they know this time of year isn't all about them getting what they want from others? And if they don't get what they want for Christmas, do they know that having a tantrum about it and then giving others the silent treatment punishment isn't really going to make them... Continue Reading →
When you read a post on a blog, an article in the news, a book, a tweet, or look at the cover of a glamour magazine, browse Instagram, Facebook, watch a video, TV or a film, do you see people? When you look in the mirror, or at a photo of yourself, do you see... Continue Reading →
I was recently asked about how two narcissists ended up together. The two narcissists in question are my father and my mother... How did they hook up? What made them decide to turn that hooking up into a marriage? If one narcissist needs the world to revolve around him/her, how on earth could having two... Continue Reading →
A quick (it's not going to be quick) intro: This is one of the top posts on my blog. Yesterday evening I decided to re-read it. This morning I decided to repost it. Why? I am surprised by how good it is. That might sound strange, but I am a strange person. I am partly... Continue Reading →
Someone recently asked me to write a post to share my perspective on how to find a measure of balance in life, love, and relationships when you have a narcissist in your environment. At the end of part 2 of How to Live with a Narcissist in your Environment, I said that the experience of... Continue Reading →
Someone recently asked me to write a post to share my perspective on how to find a measure of balance in life, love, and relationships when you have a narcissist in your environment. In part 1 of How to Live with a Narcissist in your Environment, I shared a little bit of my own experience... Continue Reading →
Someone recently asked me to write a post to share my perspective on how to find a measure of balance in life, love, and relationships when you have a narcissist in your environment. Before I share my perspective, I'm going to share a summary of my story to put my perspective into context. I am... Continue Reading →
So in the previous post - The Korean Drama Guide to Narcissists - page two - I stated that: "...page three ... will be my attempt at a partial recap of a Kdrama which I partially watched and then bailed on because… the Narcissists, the Narcissists… took over the show..." I'm rather in awe of... Continue Reading →
In the previous post - The Korean Drama Guide to Narcissists - page one - I mentioned that: "...As a teenager I watched a couple of US Soap Operas and made the comparison between them and life with my parents. I once pointed that out to my mother, and after that she would gleefully announce... Continue Reading →
The other day in a post I said the following: "...although I am beginning to think that I may have been Korean in a previous life due to how comfortable I feel with what I’ve gleaned of the culture from my recent obsession with Kdrama..." I didn't think much about my words when I wrote... Continue Reading →
[Please note: This is a repost of a series in its entirety (so this is a loooong post) published in January 2014. Number 7 seems to be missing - I may have just jumped from 6 to 8 without checking where I was numerically, or maybe I did check and still missed #7. I can't... Continue Reading →
Last night I watched an old film - Repeat Performance (1947) - which triggered an old wound, releasing some new insights into myself and my story for me personally. . . The synopsis of the film on IMDb is as follows: "On New Year's Eve 1946, Sheila Page kills her husband Barney. She wishes that... Continue Reading →
I was recently asked a question in a comment: "You mentioned in one of the steps about making sure they aren’t acting narcissistic versus being a narcissist. I searched on google, “what’s the difference between acting narcissistic versus being a narcissist or NPD.” No site made a separation between essentially stating you can’t act narcissistic... Continue Reading →
Q: Am I the Narcissist or is he/she? A: It's not as simple as that. Q: Why isn't it as simple as that? I want it to be that simple so that I can move on from the conflicts, confusion, cognitive dissonance, discomfort, that question is causing for me, and get on to the next... Continue Reading →
One of the most important things which you can do for yourself is to - Know Yourself. Self-knowledge is personal power. . . Getting to know yourself is a process which continuously happens over your entire lifetime. It starts off when you are born, simply, as you discover your own body, as you experience sensations,... Continue Reading →
What if I told you that you as you are, here, now, in this moment, are fine, perfect, far more than good enough... . . I know I don't know you, and you don't know me. I am not going to tell you to trust me - children of Narcissists have learned that the words... Continue Reading →
Imagine that you're digging a hole. You've been digging this hole for a long time. It's three feet deep, hard work, you're tired, and fed up with digging but you keep on digging. Suddenly a person appears at the edge of the hole. Standing above you, looking down on you, and they say: Stop digging... Continue Reading →
Feelings... O... woah... woah... feelings... Nothing more than feelings... Trying to forget my feelings... 11 - Feel numb or have difficulty knowing what you are feeling? Your parents minimized or ridiculed your feelings and desires. What are feelings? . . The excerpt above is what happens on the first page of results when you put... Continue Reading →
One of the strange gifts of children of Narcissists is the ability to blank themselves out. . . We do our best to be unobtrusive, not a bother, not there at all, invisible. We don't think about ourselves except in relation to the other person/people. If we're at a restaurant with a group of people,... Continue Reading →
So, Children of Narcissists, what have we learned thus far... what have we still to learn... what have we still to learn to unlearn... 7 - Feel inexplicably drawn to turmoil rather than harmony in your relationships? Your parents created drama, scapegoating and disharmony in your family. We know that Narcissist parents are toil and... Continue Reading →
me: Hi *smiling normal: Hello me: What am I supposed to say next? normal: What? me: Sorry, I was thinking and it happened out loud *grinning normal: Oh... me: What do you want from me? normal: What?!? me: Sorry, I meant, what a pleasure to see you, how are you today, you're looking good, what... Continue Reading →
I'm going to dive right in, pick up where I left off yesterday, so if you want an intro, are new to this series within a series, can't remember what happened yesterday, go here - What Are The Strange Gifts of Children of Narcissists? Am I being too bossy? Abrupt? Rude? I didn't say please,... Continue Reading →
What is the positive side of being a child of Narcissists? There's got to be one, right? It can't all be negative, can it? . . These days with the advent of more awareness about Narcissists, and the fact that Narcissists breed, have children... more and more is being written about - What happens to... Continue Reading →
This post is part-astrology and part-not-astrology, it's part-about-Narcissists and part-not-about-Narcissists, but it is all about me... or is it? Have you ever considered the conundrum of - What's your individual role in the community, in humanity, in the evolution of the human species? Have you recently participated in #MeToo, or have you wanted to but... Continue Reading →
This morning I read an article on the BBC news website which is part of the 100 Women project - The 'Right Amount' of Panic for Women in Public. It starts with the question - Have you ever wondered how much time and energy women spend avoiding harassment from men? - and then plunges into... Continue Reading →
"I hate myself..." - this is something I said to myself a few minutes ago while reviewing an interaction I had with someone else. This is something I say to myself a lot, and have said to myself throughout my life. Why? Why do I say this to myself? Where did it come from? Do... Continue Reading →
The other day I was contacted through a comment on the About page of this blog by a psychology student who is doing an Extended project for University on Narcissists/Psychopaths and their children. They asked me if I, a child of Narcissists, would be willing to participate in their project by answering a questionnaire. I... Continue Reading →
Arguments were a big part of my family of origin. Growing up the air I breathed was electric and heavy with human storms brewing, breaking, and never truly subsiding because no one ever won, nothing was ever resolved, and thus everyone was left frustrated. Disappointment seeking satisfaction is a hungry beast devouring all ahead, leaving... Continue Reading →
