Learn Narcissist in 5 Minutes for FREE

So you want to learn Narcissist in 5 minutes for free. Okay. The clock is ticking. Let's do this. But before we go any further I need to answer a few questions. It won't take me more than a kazillion years. Take a seat, shut up and put up with it. No, not on that... Continue Reading →

Narcasm: The New Year and Narcissists

As I was prepping this post to begin writing it, my internet connection experienced a failure. It's not something worth having a tantrum about unless you're a narcissist. The new WordPress editor automatically saves progress seconds after you do anything. If the connection gets disrupted, a little pink banner pops up in the editor to... Continue Reading →

The Worth of Words

Are you woke? Are you a special snowflake? Are you an entitled Millennial? Are you getting annoyed by those questions? I'm still not entirely sure what those words mean or at least what people mean when they use them like that. Fights may break out if you ask a forum of people online what those... Continue Reading →

Narcasm: Fighting and Wanting Narcissists

Yesterday was the Winter Solstice for the Northern hemisphere, marking the darkest point of the year. It was pouring with rain last night. It was so heavy, pounding the roof above me. It felt as though it was never going to stop. This morning it's bright and sunny. Maybe it'll stay clear and I'll be... Continue Reading →

Narcasm: Love and Hate and the Narcissist

Do narcissists have feelings? That's a question which sometimes comes up in discussions about narcissists. It's a question which perplexes me every time someone asks it, because in my experience of the narcissists in my life, our interactions and relationships have always been about their feelings. Your feelings don't matter. Your feelings are never as... Continue Reading →

Narcasm: Making Everyone Unhappy for the Holidays

Trusting a narcissist is one of those experiences which usually ends up with people swearing an oath to themselves never to trust anyone, including themselves, ever again. However there is one thing you can always trust a narcissist to do and that is to ruin the holidays for everyone. Even if you don't celebrate any... Continue Reading →

Narcasm: Films about Narcissists

Can you remember the last film you watched? Did you love it or loathe it? What was it about? And what was it about it which made you want to watch it (and then maybe wished you hadn't done that)? Do you have a favourite movie? Why is it your favourite? Is it the story... Continue Reading →

Narcasm: Giving Gifts to Narcissists

So it's Christmas, and you have a narcissist in your life who expects to get what they want or else... But what is it that they want? Do they want fame? Fortune? Eternal youth? Immortality? Attention? Everything? Well, yes... but even if you could give them all of that, there's probably something else they want... Continue Reading →

Narcasm: A Series about Narcissists

Do narcissists know it's Christmas? Do they know this time of year isn't all about them getting what they want from others? And if they don't get what they want for Christmas, do they know that having a tantrum about it and then giving others the silent treatment punishment isn't really going to make them... Continue Reading →

Losing Sight of the Fact that We are People

When you read a post on a blog, an article in the news, a book, a tweet, or look at the cover of a glamour magazine, browse Instagram, Facebook, watch a video, TV or a film, do you see people? When you look in the mirror, or at a photo of yourself, do you see... Continue Reading →

Two Narcissists in a Relationship? – a personal story

I was recently asked about how two narcissists ended up together. The two narcissists in question are my father and my mother... How did they hook up? What made them decide to turn that hooking up into a marriage? If one narcissist needs the world to revolve around him/her, how on earth could having two... Continue Reading →

Repost: How To Play The Narcissist’s Game

A quick (it's not going to be quick) intro: This is one of the top posts on my blog. Yesterday evening I decided to re-read it. This morning I decided to repost it. Why? I am surprised by how good it is. That might sound strange, but I am a strange person. I am partly... Continue Reading →

How to Live with a Narcissist in Your Environment – part 3

Someone recently asked me to write a post to share my perspective on how to find a measure of balance in life, love, and relationships when you have a narcissist in your environment. At the end of part 2 of How to Live with a Narcissist in your Environment, I said that the experience of... Continue Reading →

How to Live with a Narcissist in your Environment – part 2

Someone recently asked me to write a post to share my perspective on how to find a measure of balance in life, love, and relationships when you have a narcissist in your environment. In part 1 of How to Live with a Narcissist in your Environment, I shared a little bit of my own experience... Continue Reading →

How to Live with a Narcissist in your Environment

Someone recently asked me to write a post to share my perspective on how to find a measure of balance in life, love, and relationships when you have a narcissist in your environment. Before I share my perspective, I'm going to share a summary of my story to put my perspective into context. I am... Continue Reading →

The Korean Drama Guide to Narcissists – page three

So in the previous post -  The Korean Drama Guide to Narcissists - page two  -  I stated that: "...page three ... will be my attempt at a partial recap of a Kdrama which I partially watched and then bailed on because… the Narcissists, the Narcissists… took over the show..." I'm rather in awe of... Continue Reading →

The Korean Drama Guide to Narcissists – page two

In the previous post - The Korean Drama Guide to Narcissists - page one - I mentioned that: "...As a teenager I watched a couple of US Soap Operas and made the comparison between them and life with my parents. I once pointed that out to my mother, and after that she would gleefully announce... Continue Reading →

The Korean Drama Guide to Narcissists – page one

The other day in a post I said the following: "...although I am beginning to think that I may have been Korean in a previous life due to how comfortable I feel with what I’ve gleaned of the culture from my recent obsession with Kdrama..." I didn't think much about my words when I wrote... Continue Reading →

The Zen of Narcissists: Lessons 1 to 8

[Please note: This is a repost of a series in its entirety (so this is a loooong post) published in January 2014. Number 7 seems to be missing - I may have just jumped from 6 to 8 without checking where I was numerically, or maybe I did check and still missed #7. I can't... Continue Reading →

Repeat Performance – thoughts on relationships with Narcissists and the recovery process

Last night I watched an old film - Repeat Performance (1947) - which triggered an old wound, releasing some new insights into myself and my story for me personally. . . The synopsis of the film on IMDb is as follows: "On New Year's Eve 1946, Sheila Page kills her husband Barney. She wishes that... Continue Reading →

Narcissistic Behaviour versus Being a Narcissist/Having Narcissistic Personality Disorder

I was recently asked a question in a comment: "You mentioned in one of the steps about making sure they aren’t acting narcissistic versus being a narcissist. I searched on google, “what’s the difference between acting narcissistic versus being a narcissist or NPD.” No site made a separation between essentially stating you can’t act narcissistic... Continue Reading →

Strange Gifts – Am I the Narcissist or is He/She?

Q: Am I the Narcissist or is he/she? A: It's not as simple as that. Q: Why isn't it as simple as that? I want it to be that simple so that I can move on from the conflicts, confusion, cognitive dissonance, discomfort, that question is causing for me, and get on to the next... Continue Reading →

The Red Flags I Use To Recognise A Narcissist

One of the most important things which you can do for yourself is to - Know Yourself. Self-knowledge is personal power. . . Getting to know yourself is a process which continuously happens over your entire lifetime. It starts off when you are born, simply, as you discover your own body, as you experience sensations,... Continue Reading →

What Are The Strange Gifts of Children of Narcissists? – series recap

What if I told you that you as you are, here, now, in this moment, are fine, perfect, far more than good enough... . . I know I don't know you, and you don't know me. I am not going to tell you to trust me - children of Narcissists have learned that the words... Continue Reading →

What Are The Strange Gifts of Children of Narcissists? – part 7

Imagine that you're digging a hole. You've been digging this hole for a long time. It's three feet deep, hard work, you're tired, and fed up with digging but you keep on digging. Suddenly a person appears at the edge of the hole. Standing above you, looking down on you, and they say: Stop digging... Continue Reading →

What Are The Strange Gifts of Children of Narcissists? – part 6

Feelings... O... woah... woah... feelings... Nothing more than feelings... Trying to forget my feelings... 11 - Feel numb or have difficulty knowing what you are feeling? Your parents minimized or ridiculed your feelings and desires. What are feelings? . . The excerpt above is what happens on the first page of results when you put... Continue Reading →

What Are The Strange Gifts of Children of Narcissists? – part 5

One of the strange gifts of children of Narcissists is the ability to blank themselves out. . . We do our best to be unobtrusive, not a bother, not there at all, invisible. We don't think about ourselves except in relation to the other person/people. If we're at a restaurant with a group of people,... Continue Reading →

What Are The Strange Gifts of Children of Narcissists? – part 4

So, Children of Narcissists, what have we learned thus far... what have we still to learn... what have we still to learn to unlearn... 7 - Feel inexplicably drawn to turmoil rather than harmony in your relationships? Your parents created drama, scapegoating and disharmony in your family. We know that Narcissist parents are toil and... Continue Reading →

What Are The Strange Gifts of Children of Narcissists? – part 3

me: Hi *smiling normal: Hello me: What am I supposed to say next? normal: What? me: Sorry, I was thinking and it happened out loud *grinning normal: Oh... me: What do you want from me? normal: What?!? me: Sorry, I meant, what a pleasure to see you, how are you today, you're looking good, what... Continue Reading →

What Are The Strange Gifts of Children of Narcissists? – continued

I'm going to dive right in, pick up where I left off yesterday, so if you want an intro, are new to this series within a series, can't remember what happened yesterday, go here - What Are The Strange Gifts of Children of Narcissists? Am I being too bossy? Abrupt? Rude? I didn't say please,... Continue Reading →

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