Jupiter in Scorpio – When the Dirty Little Secret Comes Out of Hiding

This post is part-astrology and part-not-astrology, it's part-about-Narcissists and part-not-about-Narcissists, but it is all about me... or is it? Have you ever considered the conundrum of - What's your individual role in the community, in humanity, in the evolution of the human species? Have you recently participated in #MeToo, or have you wanted to but... Continue Reading →

How Do Children of Narcissists Stop Feeling Guilty for Doing What is Right for Themselves

This morning I read an article on the BBC news website which is part of the 100 Women project - The 'Right Amount' of Panic for Women in Public. It starts with the question -  Have you ever wondered how much time and energy women spend avoiding harassment from men? - and then plunges into... Continue Reading →

How Does a Child of Narcissists Break the Cycle of Attracting and Being Attracted to Narcissists?

"I hate myself..." - this is something I said to myself a few minutes ago while reviewing an interaction I had with someone else. This is something I say to myself a lot, and have said to myself throughout my life. Why? Why do I say this to myself? Where did it come from? Do... Continue Reading →

What is Your Experience of Being the Child of Narcissists?

The other day I was contacted through a comment on the About page of this blog by a psychology student who is doing an Extended project for University on Narcissists/Psychopaths and their children. They asked me if I, a child of Narcissists, would be willing to participate in their project by answering a questionnaire. I... Continue Reading →

Unresolved Arguments

Arguments were a big part of my family of origin. Growing up the air I breathed was electric and heavy with human storms brewing, breaking, and never truly subsiding because no one ever won, nothing was ever resolved, and thus everyone was left frustrated. Disappointment seeking satisfaction is a hungry beast devouring all ahead, leaving... Continue Reading →

My Past Life as a Narcissist

Like with most of my posts I'm going to jump around from subject to subject, go off on tangents, ramble seemingly randomly, babble about myself, and so on... if you haven't got the time or patience to sift through all of that to find what you're looking for, need or want from my word share,... Continue Reading →

In The Company of Disorder

Do you know a narcissist? Not necessarily a super-charged, malignant, Bond-villain type of Narcissist... who is in all probability a sociopath/psychopath with narcissistic tendencies rather than a simple narcissist ('simple' in comparison to a sociopath/psychopath). . If you'd like to observe from a safe distance a superb rendition of a malignant narcissist, then check out... Continue Reading →

The New Face of Children of Narcissists

What's your 'resting face'? Sometimes you'll hear someone say that they have 'resting bitch face'... . . which basically means others assume they are a bitch (which despite empowerment movements is still a pejorative) even though they don't know them... because when they're in resting mode, taking a break from being self-conscious, and a mirror... Continue Reading →

Narcissists in the News

Recently on several different news sites there were articles about an open debate which had broken out between psychologists about whether they could professionally weigh in on President Trump's mental status. This is an excerpt from one of those: . via The Guardian online . Both sides of the debate have valid arguments... so I... Continue Reading →

How To Deal With A Narcissist When You Can’t Go No Contact

If you have a Narcissist in your life and you ask for advice on how to deal with them the most common answer you will get is - Go No Contact - in other words get away from them, run and keep running and never look back, cut them out of your life, get rid... Continue Reading →

Can being with a Narcissist turn you into a Narcissist?

Can being with a Narcissist turn you into a Narcissist? This question is one I found in the search term stats of my blog along with other queries about Narcissists, such as - Why are children of Narcissists afraid of becoming Narcissists (because they don't want to do to others what was done to them,... Continue Reading →

That Moment when a Narcissist goes from being Interesting to being Boring

When it comes to the question of - How do you identify a Narcissist - before you get too involved with them, invest too much of yourself in them and your relationship with them, before you get into a relationship and figure it out the hard way later on, my go-to answer is - pay... Continue Reading →

The Big Nope: Narcissists during Christmas and New Year

Every year it seems to get harder and more complex to wish people well at this time of year. What is the politically correct term to use that will not offend, upset, deeply hurt one person or an entire social group (or an entire social group through one person), cause a debate about some issue... Continue Reading →

The Problems Encountered with Covert Narcissists

I just read a very interesting post - Facebook's Whores of Deception - about the problems encountered when joining a Support Group for Victims of Narcissists. The main problem being that the Support Group could be the vanity project (and source of narcissistic supply) of a Narcissist. If you think that a Narcissist couldn't possibly... Continue Reading →

Who’s More Dangerous?

Alice Miller's work is a must read for anyone interested in child psychology, their child's or their own inner child's psychology, and how parenting affects the child, or how your parenting reflects your own childhood, and many variations on that theme. Her book - The Drama of the Gifted Child - is excellent and is... Continue Reading →

Taking the Narcissist Test

Apparently you can determine whether you're a Narcissist or not simply by taking this test - Narcissistic Personality Inventory. Of course it's not really designed to determine whether or not you're a Narcissist, what it's actually for is to assess your personal narcissism, and this is pointed out in the intro (see below). . .... Continue Reading →

Dinner with Narcissists

Thank you to lansealan for suggesting the idea of  writing a post about going out to eat with a narcissist. . So, where to begin... perhaps first I should mention that most of my experiences of going out to eat with a narcissist involve one or both of my parents. I apologise to any narcissist... Continue Reading →

When is the Silent Treatment NOT the Silent Treatment?

If you're human... and not some alien from another planet who ended up on Earth and is stuck here (through no fault of your own, of course), because your own people have abandoned you (you volunteered for this mission and they warned you that if it goes wrong they're just going to pretend they don't... Continue Reading →

The Worst Thing To Do To A Narcissist

If you were to ask me what the worst thing I have ever done to a narcissist has been... I'd have to take a long pause to think about it while I sort through all the imaginary worst things which the narcissists in my life think I've done to them (and spent hours on end... Continue Reading →

What Do Narcissists Want?

If you strip away from narcissists all the accessories which people (who consider themselves not to be narcissists) give them, labels such as evil, monster, toxic, manipulative, Machiavellian, vampire, walking dead after your brain juice, etc,  you may actually be horrified to find someone who is a person that is not unlike you in their... Continue Reading →

The Love Bombing Issue

Have you ever met someone with whom you wanted to spend all of your time. You just can't get enough of them, you want to be with them as often as possible because being with them is so wonderful. You want to talk with them, call, message, text, email them as often as possible. The... Continue Reading →

Book Promotion: Abundant Delicious – On Obtaining Your Heart’s Desire by Andy White

Many years ago, while searching for something to read in a secondhand bookshop, I came across - Going Mad to Stay Sane - The Psychology of Self-Destructive Behaviour by Andy White - in the psychology, mythology, alternative healing and self-help section (which in this bookstore was in a small alcove separated from the rest of... Continue Reading →

Narcissist – The Dream versus The Reality

Recently I've been watching the TV series - UnREAL. It's a fictional account, based on the real experience of one of the creators and writers, of what goes on behind the scenes of a Reality TV Show like The Bachelor. I've only ever watched one season of The Bachelor. I managed to watch the entire... Continue Reading →

Inheriting Dysfunction

I've noticed that more people seem to be searching and researching what it means to be a child of narcissists. Particularly whether the condition of being a narcissist is something you can inherit from your parents like other traits, behaviours and heirlooms. . . Some writers on the subject have approached it from the nature... Continue Reading →

Through the Looking Glass…

If you read all the stuff written about narcissists online at some point you'll come across the concept of Flying Monkeys - which is a pejorative term to describe people who are used (often as weapons) by narcissists to bolster their side of a story against the person on the other side of the story... Continue Reading →

Dealing with a Narcissist – the Awaken With JP way

I don't know what you'll think of this... I didn't know what I would think of it when I clicked on the 'Play' button, and I didn't know what I thought of it as listened and watched because... It wasn't what I expected. (kind of like when narcissists aren't what you expected them to be)... Continue Reading →

How to Describe a Narcissist to Someone…

*If you want to cut to the chase of this post - scroll to the bottom. I was looking through the search terms in my stats which bring people to this blog - something I do on a fairly regular basis, often using them to inspire a post, because I'm interested in what interests other... Continue Reading →

I Was Thinking About What You Said

Have you ever had one of those experiences where suddenly something that someone said pops into your head and strikes you differently from the way in which you originally heard it. Perhaps you've done it with something which you've said to someone else, had a moment when your words came back to haunt you and... Continue Reading →

Chiron opposition Pluto – When Old Wounds Resurface

If I change my mind one more about about the subject of this post, the post may implode before I publish it... but I wasn't so much changing my mind as trying to focus it... usually I have what feels like a billion thoughts swirling around, all of which are in conversation with each other... Continue Reading →

Are You Obsessed with a Narcissist?

Last night I watched an intriguing film which told the story of a man who had never forgotten his first great love. The extent to which he hadn't forgotten her was obsessive. He thought about her all the time, wrote letters to her every day (which were returned to sender as she hadn't lived at... Continue Reading →

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