I was going to do a not-a-Narcie post today, but... as you can see I did a Narcie post. Like a typical Narcissist, Narcie is taking over my blog... while protesting that she is not doing any such thing. I must be mistaken. She doesn't mean to be invasive, that's just her way... you wouldn't... Continue Reading →
I once craved an eclair. It wasn't the first time I'd experienced that kind of craving. I have always had a thing for eclairs, especially coffee ones... with coffee creme patissiere inside (if it has ersatz cream inside - it's a fraud eclair!) I even wrote a song all about my eclair craving. I'm that... Continue Reading →
image by Mirtle . I've placed myself in rather a strange position. This isn't the first time I've done something like that. For all the thinking that I do, I sometimes don't think things through. I don't work out all the possible consequences in advance... and then figure out if I am willing to... Continue Reading →
Are you a self-identified ACoN - Adult Child of a Narcissist? . . If you are please consider taking this survey - Parental Communication Measure Study . . The survey is being conducted by Valerie Coles, Ph.D. and Dr. Jennifer Monahan of the University of Georgia’s Department of Communication Studies. It is open to all Adult Children... Continue Reading →
Are you a Narcissist? . . . No… . . . Then why are you taking the Silent Treatment personally? . . . Why do you think that a Narcissist’s Silent Treatment is about you? . . . It’s not about you. It is all about them. . . Perhaps you're D.U.I...or D.y.U.I.N... Driving yourself... Continue Reading →
A superb account of what it is like to be the child of a narcissistic mother, which also applies to a narcissistic father.
We need to inform ourselves – whether we are ACoNs (Adult Children of Narcissists), their partners, spouses, friends or otherwise, or whether we are in a relationship with a narcissist, have children with them, or are affected by them in any other way.
The more we understand them and how they affect us, the more we can understand how to heal, undo what they have done, find a way to be free from their programming, training, influence and control.
By finding out what is ‘wrong’ we can find out what is ‘right’, with us, with others.
By sharing we help ourselves and we help others help themselves too.
Thank you for sharing.
April is Child Abuse Awareness and Prevention month. At The Invisible Scar, we are focusing on emotional child abuse, such as the various types, how to help emotionally abused children, resources for healing, adult survivors of emotional child abuse, and the special case of narcissism.
Adult children of narcissistic parents (ACoNs) know a special type of emotional abuse in being raised by narcissists. (Biological mothers, stepmothers, biological fathers, and stepfathers can be N parents.)
Before we discuss the special case of narcissism, please note that not every emotionally abusive parent has the narcissistic personality disorder. In some circumstances, an emotionally abusive parent who is not a narcissist can change and improve his or her parenting. The same is not true for the narcissistic parent, however. Every narcissistic parent is an emotional abuser.
A narcissist is a person who has the narcissistic personality disorder.
Narcissistic personality disorder is one…
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This is a post inspired by those very negative muses known as Narcissists. I keep referring to the gift in the curse of being in a relationship with a Narcissist. What exactly is the gift in the curse? Simply put - You take something very negative and find the positive in it. Something which will... Continue Reading →
This is a very poignant story. Is it fictional or is it non-fiction hidden within the safety of fiction? The feelings within it are very real. And that which it inspires is very real.
And if you’ve been in a relationship with a Narcissist, then you know all too well how the boundaries between what is real and what is unreal can blur, often making the unreal more real than reality.
Confused ?… confusion is at the core of Narcissistic abuse. They are very confused, but they don’t own their confusion, they pass it on to you and leave you to deal with it.
Once you’ve read this, please take the time to read this too: Leaving Your Narcissist – Which Path Will You Take?
** A fictional piece about the evil of Narcissism
When I first met Alyssa, she was a sweet, vibrant woman who had built up her business as a Life Coach in only eighteen months. She lived three houses down from me and would often invite me in for coffee after my morning run. That was, until she met Ethan.
I always felt there was something “off” about Ethan, but Alyssa thought he was a prince. He moved in with her shortly after they started dating and I began to see her less and less until the only time I would see her was when she left for work.
The last time I saw her, she looked old and broken… an apparition of the woman she’d once been. She’d stopped me during my jog and gave me a worn leather journal and told me that if anything ever happened to her…
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Halls of Blind by Haliestra "My mother trained me to tell her everything she does was right. And when I did not agree with her, I was a bad son who betrayed her and then used guilt to keep me. A thought of my own was forbidden. The word “WE” was used a lot as... Continue Reading →
About ten years ago I cut off all contact with my mother. I got to that straw that broke the camel's back moment. It was a long time coming. My mother is a Malignant Narcissist. She doesn't know this of course, she sees herself as a saint, a martyr and a perpetual damsel in distress... Continue Reading →