The Zen of Narcissists: Lesson #3 – In a Narcissistic Society, the Narcissist is King or Queen!

The Society in which we live has already done most of the groundwork preparing people for you to swoop into their lives, sweep them off their feet, put them in a gilded cage and use them to bolster your ego. Society will also help you to keep them trapped. They’re either with us or against... Continue Reading →

What’s Your Story?

  I’ve written a lot about Narcissists this year. Both my parents are Narcissists, and although I have been estranged by personal choice from them for over ten years, they returned into my life due to my father’s death which occurred at about this time last year. So much of what I have written is... Continue Reading →

Fateful Meetings

There is a scene at the start of a quirky Indie film - Interstate 60 - where a man on a bicycle cycles past a parked car just as the driver of the car is getting out. The driver is on his mobile phone and not paying attention to the world around him. The cyclist... Continue Reading →

Are You A Narcissist?

This post was inspired by some of the things which you have said to me. I hope you don’t mind, and I hope you can see how much you inspire me. What would happen if you went into therapy to try and heal the issues that the Narcissists in your life have caused, and your... Continue Reading →

What’s the Biggest and Bestest (yes, I know it’s not a word, but it is) Influence in your Life?

"Some things in life are bad They can really make you mad Other things just make you swear and curse When you're chewing on life's gristle Don't grumble, give a whistle And this'll help things turn out for the best..." I was going to write this post before I saw today’s Daily Post prompt -... Continue Reading →

Narcissism 101 – Ask me a question

Okay, so here's the thing, my internet is a mess of hiccups, sometimes I can connect and it is fluid and sometimes just loading one page takes an age. I haven't got that kind of patience. My mind, right now, is a bit cloudy thanks to dealing with the Narcissists in my life and the... Continue Reading →

NSFM – Not Safe For Men – but is it safe for women?

“Most men fear getting laughed at or humiliated by a romantic prospect while most women fear rape and death.” ― Gavin de Becker, The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence Men just can't understand, even when they try because men do try very hard to understand women (they do and it... Continue Reading →

Being A Child of Narcissists – Breaking the Silence

Halls of Blind by Haliestra "My mother trained me to tell her everything she does was right. And when I did not agree with her, I was a bad son who betrayed her and then used guilt to keep me. A thought of my own was forbidden. The word “WE” was used a lot as... Continue Reading →

A Shot of Fear Fuelled Adrenalin

Fear by Maria Yakunchikova This time of year the Halloween marketing campaign is in full bombardment mode. The local shops are peddling candy, costumes and pumpkins. The television is churning out the usual suspects film wise. The film channels such as Netflix and Lovefilm have upped their scary movie quotient. And your favourite websites and... Continue Reading →

How To Play The Narcissist’s Game

*I'm adding a disclaimer of sorts to this post due to a few people who seem to think that I'm claiming to be an expert. When I use the word - expert - to refer to myself, I'm being sardonic towards myself. I use humour to deal with my pain. I am not an expert,... Continue Reading →

There’s a Flip Side to Everything

There is a flip side to everything. I say this a lot, to myself and to others. At its basis is the Yin Yang symbol. Black and white together forming a whole. The black has a drop of white in it and the white has a drop of black in it. I apply this to... Continue Reading →

Where Are You From?

Where Are You From? This question, and several others in the same category of introductory queries asked by people who are politely going through the socially approved motions of getting to know you, always leaves me at a loss for an answer. That's a lie and a truth rolled into one sentence. I'm not really... Continue Reading →

Breaking Bad Habits

I have watched Breaking Bad, but I did not make it a habit. I loved the first season, however there was one character who stressed me out too much and made the rest of the series impossible for me to view. My partner watched the whole series, most of it in back to back episodes.... Continue Reading →

A Very Inspiring Blogger – Love Thy Introvert – For the introverts…and the extroverts that love us!

Where is the beginning? What leads you to find a blog and makes you decide to follow it? The other day I read a post - How to Talk to a Sad Melancholy Introvert -  which inspired a deep and long conversation within me that shifted my perspective. If you don't know me that won't... Continue Reading →

How to Talk to a Sad Melancholy Introvert

I have a question, which I will eventually get around to answering for myself later by doing some research - Can you nominate blogs for a blog award without first receiving an award nomination? I have had a couple of those, but that was before and this is now... Now I would like to nominate... Continue Reading →

Internet Treasures: The Insight Game

Do you enjoy exploring yourself? Who you are, what makes you tick, why you do what you do, think what you think, feel what you feel, and learning new ways of looking at yourself. Do you like taking personality tests (and arguing with every question if you're similar to me)? Do you like to 'type'... Continue Reading →

What would you be willing to do to get what you want?

"I hear the pastrami sandwich is very good here…" Most people think they're good. Moral. With a decent code of conduct. Values and principles guiding them to a right way of living and being. Or at least they do their best to be better than not better or worse. We all have our bad moments.... Continue Reading →

Splitting – The Divided Heart and Mind

“She was owner and captive, both, of a bitterly divided heart.” - Guy Gavriel Kay Splitting is a term used in psychology to describe the human tendency to divide things and people usually into opposites. Good versus bad, negative versus positive, hero versus villain, friend versus enemy, like versus dislike, love versus hate, pain versus... Continue Reading →

A Haven of Troubles

"Tagline: It takes a village to hide a secret" I've been watching a TV series from the Syfy channel called - Haven. It's a quirky show. I love quirky shows. Warehouse 13. I thought was awful when I first watched it, then I watched it again and realised the things I thought were awful about... Continue Reading →

Emotionally Unstable? Thinking Too Much? Is it You or Your Brain?

“But my way of writing is rather to think aloud, and follow my own humours, than much to consider who is listening to me; and, if I stop to consider what is proper to be said to this or that person, I shall soon come to doubt whether any part at all is proper.” - ... Continue Reading →

That Healing Feeling… Trying to understand why I attract Hungry Ghosts and why they find me so Delicious

Have you ever had a relationship with someone who gradually becomes you? Someone who, when you first met them, had one version of who they were which they told you about, but as you told them more about yourself, they changed their identity story, bit by bit, until it became your story told through their... Continue Reading →

Pretty Fly For A Shy Guy

"He waits; that's what he does... And I tell you what: tick followed tock followed tick followed tock followed tick... Here's to waiting." So, I just finished posting a piece I wrote prompted by a Daily Post writing prompt, then I went onto my reader and read a post which prompted this post. Writing prompts... Continue Reading →

Extroverted, Introverted, and Ambiverted

My Demons by Boris Pramatarov I read an article today which was a cheeky rant at the sudden rise in posts on social media sites about being introverted. The author felt that introverts were behaving in a highly extroverted way about being introverted, thus confusing the issue of whether they were truly introverts or just... Continue Reading →

What Do You Want? A Trip Down Memory Lane with Pluto… retrograde and transiting the 4th House… I guess we won’t be skipping.

What do you want? is one of those questions which I ask in my mind so often that it could be considered a mantra. It serves several different purposes and means various things to me. Some of these are superficial, yet they are not trivial because they are the outer manifestations of the inner conundrums... Continue Reading →

Internet Treasures: High Existence

Think while it's still legal via High Existence I'm a... dot dot dot indeed! I'm many things, some of them real, some of them imagined, some of the real stuff is imagined, some of the imagined stuff is real. I'm... you know... human. I love to argue. Debate. Discuss. Brainstorm. Storm my brain. Storm the... Continue Reading →

Faulty Logic Postulated on Imperfect Data Collection

Luther is a show I have been watching recently. A very well-crafted series with a superb cast. It is a psychological crime drama with a certain moral ambiguity which challenges the mind in a deeply satisfying and slightly disturbing way. I saw the second season in the series first, a while ago, loved it, it... Continue Reading →

Are You My Mother? – Musings on the meaning of Mother

When I was a child something amazing happened - I discovered books. I can't remember the exact moment but I can recall the joy I felt of immersing myself in a story held within a simple object. At first it was through illustrations, beautiful images which came alive and which drew me into their universes.... Continue Reading →

Are You a Magnet for Narcissists?

Please Note: You can skip whatever part you are not interested in - I'm assuming you're interested in a part of this as you're reading it - and go straight to whichever part you are looking for. PART ONE indulges my need to understand NPD due to my being the only child of two Narcissists.... Continue Reading →

I Think This Belongs To You

From the moment we are born, not our actual physical birth, but the moment our existence enters the conscious mind of others, the moment our birth mother realises that she is pregnant and our birth father realises that his sperm has created a being, people start giving us gifts. Those gifts are a part of... Continue Reading →

The Trippy Trap of Being Special

This is a comment I received on one of my posts: "This is a really good read for me. Must agree that you are one of the coolest bloggers I ever saw. Thanks for posting this useful information. This was just what I was looking for. I’ll come back to this blog for sure!" And... Continue Reading →

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