SYW: Cut To The Quick

I have man flu at the moment. So I'm a bit fuggy in the pink labyrinth membrane. I had forgotten how useful a momentary sickness can be as a pause to reconsider... things such as what you've been up to with your life time. What your patterns, habits, rituals and rhythms of daily living, thought,... Continue Reading →

Where You Thought You Were Going and Where You Ended Up

I used to wander off a lot as a child. One of my mother's favourite anecdotes to tell about toddler-me was the time we were at the beach, and a stranger ran up to my mother urgently pointing at a slowly disappearing into the distance child in a flotation ring on the sea. Is that... Continue Reading →

Who Comes First – Me or You or Everyone Else?

Yesterday I was finishing off some DIY in the sitting room. Don't award me a halo. I was fixing a mess I'd made this Summer while trying to find the point of entry of swarming ants - the third time this happened I took out a hammer. My partner was in the room playing Fortnite.... Continue Reading →

If everyone reading this were to donate…

[This is a repost of a post from December 2014. It's kind of weird reposting a post from a few Winters ago when at the moment it's August and this Summer has been so unusually hot and dry (in a place, the UK, where Summer is usually hot and dry for about two weeks if... Continue Reading →

Is John a Narcissist or is John the victim of a Narcissist?

[This is a repost of a post published in November 2014. This is one of those posts which I not only remember writing, but I also recall exactly what inspired me to write it. At the time I was receiving quite a lot of comments on my posts about narcissists, 'narcissist' was a trending hot... Continue Reading →

Testing Your Personality

[Please note: This is a repost of a post published in September 2014. I chose to repost this post because... I need to take a test, and my personality is getting in the way of me doing that. To be fair to my personality, I'm not really sure if it's the obstacle or some other... Continue Reading →

Validation, Acceptance, and Rejection

[Please note that this is a repost of a post published in March of 2013. The only change made to it is the addition of an image from a TV series I'm watching at the moment - Oh My Ghost(ess) - which is excellent, and which has a character in it whose intense shyness reminded... Continue Reading →

Are You Asking the Right Questions

For as long as I have known myself, and been aware of a self of who to know and to get to know, there has been one consistent question I have asked of myself and tried to answer, and find the answer to (often everywhere but where the answer was actually located - within the... Continue Reading →

What a Trite Truism that is!

Someone recently said something in my general direction sort of in reply to something which I had said in their general direction which made me... Stop! And think about what you're trying to do to me! . . Because me is always there... your me, my me, his me, her me, our me... army!?! Anyway... Continue Reading →

The 8th House – What is Theirs and What I Want to Make Mine

Do you like it when I ask you questions at the beginning of my posts? Does it engage you, make you feel like you're part of the conversation as though we're having a tete-a-tete? Or does it make you shift a little... move your finger to click away? Are my questions a little too probing,... Continue Reading →

The Descendant and 7th House – We, Us, You plus Me

I hope you've been enjoying my particular (and possibly peculiar) take on the houses in astrology and how to use them while attempting to read your natal chart. I ranted a bit, raved a lot, talked exhaustively and extensively about me, me, me... which is actually okay and not something to feel ashamed about as... Continue Reading →

The Thinky Pain of Mars in Scorpio

. “That’s the big challenge of life—to chisel disappointment into wisdom so people respect you and you don’t annoy your friends with your whining.” ― Marc Maron . Have you ever met (and I'm using the concept of meeting very loosely) someone who made you do a double take and say to yourself - Omg,... Continue Reading →

Answering Questions About People

I've done a post on - Answering Questions About Narcissists - and one on - Answering Questions About Capricorn - so I thought I'd do one on something which both of those have in common - they're people. Now I know there are those who would prefer to think of Narcissists and Capricorns as not... Continue Reading →

Relationships are ‘Easy’…

You don't know me... even if you think you do - you don't. Seriously... I know I do deadpan and it can be hard to know when I'm being serious and when I'm only pretending to be serious, laughing and smiling behind a tight lipped expression... but... don't argue with me about this because I'm... Continue Reading →

Stepping Through a Virgo Door

. “I was looking for the key for years But the door was always open” ― Aravind Adiga . It really needs replacing, it's knackered, it is glued together with layers of paint, so stripping it before repainting it was not an option, but even though it is falling apart there's something about it which... Continue Reading →

I Don’t Know Who I Am Anymore

For as long as I have known myself, been aware of something, someone, known as myself, I have gone through periods of not being certain who I was referring to when I used the terms 'me, myself and I'. . . When this first happened I probably didn't think there was anything unusual about it,... Continue Reading →

How do you catch a snake in the house

I'm not asking about a symbolic snake, I'm not inquiring into how to catch a human being 'a snake' in your life (house), or how to catch those psyche snakes which slither inside of you causing you slide down chutes into the murky and complex depths of your issues (although I was thinking about something... Continue Reading →

Reasons to Avoid People

Avoiding people is something that I've been doing all my life in one form or another. If practice does indeed make perfect, then you could say that this is something I've perfected... . (which in my case includes everyone, so to make your judgment of me easier start with you as I'm probably jonesing to... Continue Reading →

Maybe you’re right…

. “Not one of your pertinent ancestors was squashed, devoured, drowned, starved, stranded, stuck fast, untimely wounded, or otherwise deflected from its life's quest of delivering a tiny charge of genetic material to the right partner at the right moment in order to perpetuate the only possible sequence of hereditary combinations that could result --... Continue Reading →

Why Do People Complain?

I have to confess that when other people start complaining I tend to make a hasty exit if I can. If I can't make an exit and have to stick around I'll space out and play a - let's analyse what this person is really saying or doing by saying - game, which can be... Continue Reading →

Narcissist – The Dream versus The Reality

Recently I've been watching the TV series - UnREAL. It's a fictional account, based on the real experience of one of the creators and writers, of what goes on behind the scenes of a Reality TV Show like The Bachelor. I've only ever watched one season of The Bachelor. I managed to watch the entire... Continue Reading →

Dark and Difficult

At some point in my interactions with other people, I will begin to feel limited and restricted. As the feeling progresses it will grow into a sense of being trapped. If I let it expand, continuing to grow without tending to it, it will become a beast who wants to break free. Once it becomes... Continue Reading →

Shrink To Fit

As I write this post there is a thunderstorm with torrential rain but without lightning (at least none that I've noticed) passing overhead... which has yet to let up... it has a lot to say and might not go away until it is heard, not just heard but also understood... it may be here all... Continue Reading →

Narc Bites: It’s Always April Fools’ Day in Narcville

Do you think that April Fools' Day is fun? Do you enjoy playing pranks on others? Do you like to fool people into believing something then burst out laughing because you were just kidding and they took you seriously? It's just a bit of fun, no harm intended, right? We all need some light entertainment... Continue Reading →

I really wish you wouldn’t do that…

Have you ever felt as though someone was trying to control you? How did you react? Has someone else ever felt as though you were trying to control them? How did they react? Did you have a good reason for trying to control them... and maybe even expected them to appreciate your interference, . this... Continue Reading →

How to Think like a Narcissist

You’ve just stubbed your toe. Pain shoots through you making you want to scream. The doors of hell open and welcome you. You can’t think, you can only feel this excruciating torture of intense throbbing hurt. . (narcissists think this a lot, this for them makes them special but also increases their sense of being... Continue Reading →

Kissing Bottom

What does - Kissing Bottom - mean to you? If you're here, reading this, it must mean something to you... or maybe you're just curious about what it means to me... as what it means to me may give you something which means something to you. Perhaps you're hoping to compare yourself favourably to me...... Continue Reading →

The Master of the Why

Why? Why did I say that? Why did I do that? Why did I say that when I could have said this instead, I didn't want to say that so why did I say it, why didn't I say what I really wanted to say? Why did I do that when I didn't want to... Continue Reading →

The Element of Heat

That was cold! Was it? Well, it certainly felt that way. But you knew it was coming, so you were prepared for the gust of icy dismissal. Still, though, you're never really ready to feel it even when you know it's about to hit. . . “All morning I struggled with the sensation of stray... Continue Reading →

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