Are You Asking the Right Questions

For as long as I have known myself, and been aware of a self of who to know and to get to know, there has been one consistent question I have asked of myself and tried to answer, and find the answer to (often everywhere but where the answer was actually located - within the... Continue Reading →

Advertisements

What a Trite Truism that is!

Someone recently said something in my general direction sort of in reply to something which I had said in their general direction which made me... Stop! And think about what you're trying to do to me! . . Because me is always there... your me, my me, his me, her me, our me... army!?! Anyway... Continue Reading →

The 8th House – What is Theirs and What I Want to Make Mine

Do you like it when I ask you questions at the beginning of my posts? Does it engage you, make you feel like you're part of the conversation as though we're having a tete-a-tete? Or does it make you shift a little... move your finger to click away? Are my questions a little too probing,... Continue Reading →

The Descendant and 7th House – We, Us, You plus Me

I hope you've been enjoying my particular (and possibly peculiar) take on the houses in astrology and how to use them while attempting to read your natal chart. I ranted a bit, raved a lot, talked exhaustively and extensively about me, me, me... which is actually okay and not something to feel ashamed about as... Continue Reading →

The Thinky Pain of Mars in Scorpio

. “That’s the big challenge of life—to chisel disappointment into wisdom so people respect you and you don’t annoy your friends with your whining.” ― Marc Maron . Have you ever met (and I'm using the concept of meeting very loosely) someone who made you do a double take and say to yourself - Omg,... Continue Reading →

Answering Questions About People

I've done a post on - Answering Questions About Narcissists - and one on - Answering Questions About Capricorn - so I thought I'd do one on something which both of those have in common - they're people. Now I know there are those who would prefer to think of Narcissists and Capricorns as not... Continue Reading →

Relationships are ‘Easy’…

You don't know me... even if you think you do - you don't. Seriously... I know I do deadpan and it can be hard to know when I'm being serious and when I'm only pretending to be serious, laughing and smiling behind a tight lipped expression... but... don't argue with me about this because I'm... Continue Reading →

Stepping Through a Virgo Door

. “I was looking for the key for years But the door was always open” ― Aravind Adiga . It really needs replacing, it's knackered, it is glued together with layers of paint, so stripping it before repainting it was not an option, but even though it is falling apart there's something about it which... Continue Reading →

I Don’t Know Who I Am Anymore

For as long as I have known myself, been aware of something, someone, known as myself, I have gone through periods of not being certain who I was referring to when I used the terms 'me, myself and I'. . . When this first happened I probably didn't think there was anything unusual about it,... Continue Reading →

How do you catch a snake in the house

I'm not asking about a symbolic snake, I'm not inquiring into how to catch a human being 'a snake' in your life (house), or how to catch those psyche snakes which slither inside of you causing you slide down chutes into the murky and complex depths of your issues (although I was thinking about something... Continue Reading →

Reasons to Avoid People

Avoiding people is something that I've been doing all my life in one form or another. If practice does indeed make perfect, then you could say that this is something I've perfected... . (which in my case includes everyone, so to make your judgment of me easier start with you as I'm probably jonesing to... Continue Reading →

Maybe you’re right…

. “Not one of your pertinent ancestors was squashed, devoured, drowned, starved, stranded, stuck fast, untimely wounded, or otherwise deflected from its life's quest of delivering a tiny charge of genetic material to the right partner at the right moment in order to perpetuate the only possible sequence of hereditary combinations that could result --... Continue Reading →

Why Do People Complain?

I have to confess that when other people start complaining I tend to make a hasty exit if I can. If I can't make an exit and have to stick around I'll space out and play a - let's analyse what this person is really saying or doing by saying - game, which can be... Continue Reading →

Narcissist – The Dream versus The Reality

Recently I've been watching the TV series - UnREAL. It's a fictional account, based on the real experience of one of the creators and writers, of what goes on behind the scenes of a Reality TV Show like The Bachelor. I've only ever watched one season of The Bachelor. I managed to watch the entire... Continue Reading →

Dark and Difficult

At some point in my interactions with other people, I will begin to feel limited and restricted. As the feeling progresses it will grow into a sense of being trapped. If I let it expand, continuing to grow without tending to it, it will become a beast who wants to break free. Once it becomes... Continue Reading →

Shrink To Fit

As I write this post there is a thunderstorm with torrential rain but without lightning (at least none that I've noticed) passing overhead... which has yet to let up... it has a lot to say and might not go away until it is heard, not just heard but also understood... it may be here all... Continue Reading →

Narc Bites: It’s Always April Fools’ Day in Narcville

Do you think that April Fools' Day is fun? Do you enjoy playing pranks on others? Do you like to fool people into believing something then burst out laughing because you were just kidding and they took you seriously? It's just a bit of fun, no harm intended, right? We all need some light entertainment... Continue Reading →

I really wish you wouldn’t do that…

Have you ever felt as though someone was trying to control you? How did you react? Has someone else ever felt as though you were trying to control them? How did they react? Did you have a good reason for trying to control them... and maybe even expected them to appreciate your interference, . this... Continue Reading →

How to Think like a Narcissist

You’ve just stubbed your toe. Pain shoots through you making you want to scream. The doors of hell open and welcome you. You can’t think, you can only feel this excruciating torture of intense throbbing hurt. . (narcissists think this a lot, this for them makes them special but also increases their sense of being... Continue Reading →

Kissing Bottom

What does - Kissing Bottom - mean to you? If you're here, reading this, it must mean something to you... or maybe you're just curious about what it means to me... as what it means to me may give you something which means something to you. Perhaps you're hoping to compare yourself favourably to me...... Continue Reading →

The Master of the Why

Why? Why did I say that? Why did I do that? Why did I say that when I could have said this instead, I didn't want to say that so why did I say it, why didn't I say what I really wanted to say? Why did I do that when I didn't want to... Continue Reading →

The Element of Heat

That was cold! Was it? Well, it certainly felt that way. But you knew it was coming, so you were prepared for the gust of icy dismissal. Still, though, you're never really ready to feel it even when you know it's about to hit. . . “All morning I struggled with the sensation of stray... Continue Reading →

How do you know when you’re lying to yourself?

This post is inspired by the person who searched online for - psychological signs that your brain is trying to tell you you're being taken advantage of - and ended up on my blog, in the stats as a search term which caught my eye as I perused them to see what journeys you were... Continue Reading →

The Daughter of Deep Silence

. “Deep vengeance is the daughter of deep silence.” ― Vittorio Alfieri . When you think of silence, Is it a place or an action filled with light or with dark? Is it peaceful, a space of solitary contemplation, a refuge from the word-filled storms of the world, a moment to yourself, private, secret... Is... Continue Reading →

I Ran… (and now I let my fingers do a walk of shame)

Do you want the long version or the short version? For those of you who have read my posts, you're probably wondering if I even know what a short version is. Yes, I do... (I was tempted to end this post here, and do a runner) it's just not something I do on my blog.... Continue Reading →

Love and the Narcissist’s Child

. Can you recall the moment that the concept of Love first became a conscious consideration for you? When did you start thinking about Love? When did you become aware that a certain sensation was a feeling called Love? And when did you begin conjuring up the image in your mind’s eye of the one... Continue Reading →

What Would You Like Me to Write About?

The other day I wrote a post about how blogs are people, how what you find on a blog reflects the person behind the blog who experiences all the ups, downs, and usual merry-go-round of being a human living life. I know that's obvious but sometimes the obvious gets obscured by... by what? By all... Continue Reading →

Blogs are People

We, the people... shouldn't that be... We are people... ? because we are people, aren't we? and the 'the' just sounds like... (a band name) . http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kb7_pOu4kuc . something which separates us from who we are... together and apart... a typically human experience... disconnected even when connected... and that kind of connected disconnectedness leaks out... Continue Reading →

The Simple Charm of the Daisy

. “The splendor of the rose and the whiteness of the lily do not rob the little violet of it’s scent nor the daisy of its simple charm. If every tiny flower wanted to be a rose, spring would lose its loveliness.” ― Thérèse de Lisieux . Do you like to keep things simple or... Continue Reading →

How to Deal with the Mental Mayhem of Mercury Square Mars

. I keep trying to write this post... (seems to me your 'trying' is trying of a different sort and that's about it) but I keep getting interrupted... ('distracted' would be more precise) mostly by the sort of interruptions which I create for myself... (do you really need to stretch your 'legs' again - see... Continue Reading →

Up ↑

%d bloggers like this: